Blessing on Sex-
I know about many of the blessings recited for various events and daily occurrences, but in all my studies, I have yet to find mention of a blessing for marital intimacy. We have a blessing for using the bathroom, for...More
I was recently assigned to a long-term project where I had to work long hours with a colleague who is a married man. We slowly grew closer and now we are in a full-fledged affair. I never planned this, but now I want...More
Hole in the Sheet-
I heard that observant Jews have relations through a hole in a bed sheet. I tried finding the source, but was unsuccessful. Is this true?
I have been seeing a married man for over a year now. He has been separated from his wife for four months and we see each other as much as possible. I have been separated from my husband for over a year and am in the...More
Homosexual - Is Change Possible?-
The Torah says that homosexuality is an abomination; but isn’t there a more modern view? Aren't people compelled to engage in homosexuality? Isn't a clear percentage of any given population of homosexual...More
Homosexuality - Why Not?-
I don’t understand what is wrong with the homosexual act? It is, after all, an act of love. Who are we to decide that it’s wrong?
Homosexuals - Equal Rights?-
Recently a friend and I had a long discussion about the appropriateness of homosexuals as teachers and rabbis, etc., and on how Judaism should deal with homosexuality in general. It seems that there is a conflict...More
My boyfriend just got a new job and will be moving to my city. He says that it’s time we start living together. The idea seems to have advantages – shared expenses, and we can spend more time together. But...More
Marital Relations – Mitzvah-
What is the Jewish view of intimacy? Is sex just for procreative purposes, or is it all right to have relations with one's spouse for recreation and intimacy?
Marriage – Older Couple-
I’m happy to write that I recently met the woman of my life. After the failed marriage of my younger years, I feel I have at last met my true soul mate! We look forward to marrying in due time. My question is that my...More
Mikveh - Why?-
Why are a man and woman prohibited from marital relations during her menstruation? Does Judaism consider women somehow “unclean”? And if a woman always has to go to mikveh, when is the couple together?
Why is a couple prohibited from marital relations during the wife's menstruation? Doesn't this reduce the ability of a man and woman to connect through the deeper aspects of marriage? And isn't this whole thing...More
I was raised in an Orthodox home and the idea of being physical with guys was discouraged until after marriage. Now I met a guy at school and I figure that some innocent hugging would probably be all right, I don't...More
I’ve been dating a man for the past six months and he says “it is time to get serious.” I agree, except that we differ in how we define that. In my mind, “getting serious: means to talk about...More
I was reading in an online forum that Judaism advocates that a rapist marry his victim. This sounds so backward and oppressive, and difficult to reconcile with the compassionate Judaism that I know and love. Is what I...More
Sexual Immorality – Giving Up One's Life-
I read that all the Torah's commandments "can be broken to save a life" except for three. I think I understand two of the three:
1) Idolatry - this would threaten the very fabric of Judaism and therefore...More
On an intuitive level, I believe that intimacy should be reserved for a husband and wife. But on a philosophical level, I have no good reason to explain why to friends (or my children!) who insist on a more liberal...More
I have a difficult issue that I wish to discuss with a rabbi. I am a female-to-male transsexual. My soul and self-identity feels male, yet my body is biologically female. Every time I look in the mirror, ever since...More