Homosexuals in the Family-Oriented Jewish Community: Society Response on Ask the Rabbi
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Homosexuals in the Family-Oriented Jewish Community

Given that the Jewish community is so family-oriented, what possible role can a homosexual have? Shouldn’t they be allowed to adopt children to gratify the normal human longing to be a parent?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Family and children are important in Jewish society, but someone who lacks this should not feel any less than a full-fledged member of the community.

A homosexual who does not have a family can make serious contributions to Judaism which others cannot; for example, he could bring Judaism to smaller communities where there are no facilities for raising a Jewish family.

Furthermore, activities that involve much travel, such as fundraising (a vital aspect of Jewish survival), are best accomplished by someone who is not tied down to a family.

Can a homosexual be expected to live as a celibate? Rabbi Aaron Feldman has said that it is possible to do this if he throws his every spare moment into devotion to the welfare of his people – i.e. he decides that the Jewish people are his "wife and children."

Regarding the matter of adopting children, any sociologist will tell you that children need a male and female parental role model. Lack of this can create psychological problems later in life (the "Oedipus complex" explains this in deeper subconscious terms). There is surely no shortage of man/woman couples yearning to adopt children into their loving homes.

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