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Wedding Dates

I am planning my wedding for next year and I want to make sure that we don't schedule it in conflict with any Jewish holidays, etc. What days on the calendar are off-limits? And what day of the week is good to get married? I heard that it is good luck to get married on a Tuesday or Thursday.

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

The general rule is that we do not have weddings on Shabbat (Friday evening or all day Saturday) nor on the Jewish holidays -- which includes Rosh Hashana, Yom Kippur, Passover, Shavuot and Sukkot.

In addition, many do not schedule a wedding on the eve of Shabbat or a holiday, lest friends and relatives travel home from the wedding on Shabbat or the holiday itself.

In the summertime, for the three weeks between the 17th of Tammuz and the 10th of Av, there are no weddings. This is a period of national mourning for the destruction of the Holy Temples.

In the springtime, we do not have weddings for approximately one month during the Omer period. There are two major customs: either there are no weddings 1) from the second day Passover until Lag B'Omer, or 2) from the first day of Iyar until Shavuot. (source: "Code of Jewish law" OC 493, with Mishnah Berurah 14). In this regard, one may change from one custom to another in different years (Igrot Moshe OC 1:159). Thus, a wedding may be scheduled between the second day of Passover until Rosh Chodesh Iyar, or from Lag B'Omer until the day before Shavuot, as long as one observes the Omer restrictions during the other period.

As for the day of the week, a couple may marry freely from Sunday through Thursday. However, some prefer Tuesday, because on the third day of creation, the words "it is good" appears twice (Genesis 1:10, 12). (Note that "Tuesday" on the Jewish calendar means from Monday night until Tuesday sunset.)

Some prefer to marry on Thursday, because on the fifth day of creation, the living things were blessed to be "fruitful and multiply." (Genesis 1:22)

Mazel tov on your upcoming wedding. May it be at an auspicious time!

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