Unfortunately my young child has been diagnosed with a serious disease. I am terrified trying to wade through all the tests and doctors on my own. Do you know anyone who can help guide me?
The Aish Rabbi Replies:
It is a time-honored Jewish tradition to assist those with medical needs. This is inevitably a time of stress for the patient and the family.
For medical information, contact www.rofeh.org - the worldwide health assistance organization of the Bostoner chassidim. They track all the best doctors in the U.S., and can always point you where to go.
You could also get guidance from:
Chai Lifeline, which assists sick Jewish children with cancer and other genetic diseases.
In Israel, the big medical advisory organizations are:
Rabbi Elimelech Firer - 03-677-0730, fax 03-676-1489
Rabbi Binyamin Fisher - 02-643-9140, 643-3474
Ezer Mitzion - 02-500-2111, fax 02-537-4881
Wherever you are located, it always helps to have others praying on your behalf. To facilitate this, send the person's Hebrew (and their mother's name) to firstname.lastname@example.org, with a brief description of his condition.
Wishing your child a full and speedy recovery.
I was recently spending some time with my friend, the singer Matisyahu and his beautiful family on his tour bus before a concert in Dallas. While we were discussing the morning blessings, Matisyahu raised a question that was bothering him: The rabbis instituted blessings to recite every morning for our basic needs such as power of sight, ability to stand up and walk, etc. The first blessing recited is for “giving the rooster the insight to distinguish between day and night.”
How does that figure into our important needs such as seeing and walking? Also, it doesn't take that much insight or intelligence to differentiate between day and night; this is a natural, physical distinction. Why should this come under the category of "understanding"?
The Aish Rabbi Replies:
This question has been raised by the early commentators to the Siddur (prayer book). As with the entire Siddur, there are numerous layers of meaning supplanted by our Sages to each word of the prayers; we shall attempt to understand this blessing on different levels.
Some commentators to the Talmud translate the word "sechvi" as rooster, as you mentioned, that we are thanking God for giving the wisdom to this animal to be the world's first natural alarm clock. This is the simple meaning, fitting in with our basic needs, the first of which is to wake up in the morning. However, the blessing also uses the word "lehavchin," which is used in Hebrew for a deeper type of differentiation than simply seeing the sun rise; this refers to a deeper understanding.
Other Talmudic sages interpret the word "sechvi" as "heart," referring to the capacity of man to differentiate between night and day. This, however, does not seem to reconcile the issue; why does man need deep intuition to tell between dark and light?
Some answer this by the fact that the rooster does not actually wait till daybreak to commence its crowing; it senses that day is about to begin, the first rays of the sun are soon to break the horizon, and begins its mission while it is still dark. The rooster senses the imminent light from within the darkness, a unique endowment to this animal. This is also an analogy to the endowment of human wisdom. Every day has periods of light, representing clarity, peace of mind, success. There are also spurts of darkness which can last for some time, times of confusion, challenges and difficulties. It takes a level of wisdom, patience and maturity - coupled with belief and trust - to not get caught up in the darkness, rather to find the light in the darkness and the silver lining in every cloud.
One needs to look at the rooster to derive inspiration that the darkness will eventually lead to light. With this the two commentaries of rooster and heart become one bigger reality reflecting upon the totality of the human experience; hence this is the first blessing recited.
Some point out that this also reflects the Jewish attitude on life. The rooster crows only with the onset of day - but not when day turns into night. We always believe that no matter how difficult things might be, either individually or as a nation, there is always a brighter future in store. Things will be all right.
We look at every new day with positive anticipation and excitement - the dawn of a new time to accomplish and grow and make a difference in the world.
One sage understands the rooster to be used symbolically in this blessing which praises God for creating the intricately connected eco-system that is our world: flora and fauna, animal and human, each element connected to every other. The rooster's crowing acts as a natural alarm clock for human beings; it is the first manifestation of this interconnection and of the many ways in which the entire natural world is meant for our benefit.
All the above requires a deeper intuition, "lehavchin," to use one's full faculties and understanding to plumb to the more subtle depths and nuances in the world and in our lives. Our ability to do so is a Divinely endowed gift, one that enables us to understand life itself, and is certainly worthy of our thanks to the One who gifted it to us!
Why is a couple prohibited from marital relations during the wife's menstruation? Doesn't this reduce the ability of a man and woman to connect through the deeper aspects of marriage? And isn't this whole thing discriminatory toward women?
The Aish Rabbi Replies:
Actually, the laws of family purity help increase intimacy between husband and wife, and it has nothing to do with "double standards," as we shall explain.
There is a spiritual concept called "tuma." Unfortunately mistranslated as "dirty," tuma is not a description of inferiority, impurity or uncleanliness. Rather, tuma is caused by the "loss of human life." For example, the dead body of a human being contains the greatest degree of tuma.
Similarly, after having marital relations, men are in a state of tuma, because of the loss of the "building blocks" of life within them (Leviticus 15:16). Women incur this state of tuma when they menstruate, because of the loss of potential life within them (Leviticus 15:19). The Talmud calls this a "whisper of death."
Intimacy in Judaism has a very specific meaning. When a man and woman express love for one another in a proper physical relationship, in which they view themselves as two halves of a whole, then a deep emotional-spiritual bond is formed. But if the physical relationship remains rooted primarily on the physical, that focus on self-gratification does not allow for the couple to become whole together.
The period of separation during menstruation enables the couple to achieve true love. This is because a strong yearning between the husband and wife begins to build. This separation also forces a verbal intimacy, since they are not allowed to touch each other. Real intimacy requires the mind and emotions. This painful longing for each other changes the relationship for the better, and when they resume the physical side it already includes the deep emotional-spiritual component.