About the Author


Rabbi Dov Heller, LMFT

Rabbi Dov Heller is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who holds Masters Degrees in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University and in Contemporary Theology from Harvard University. He also holds a B.A in philosophy and was ordained a rabbi in Jerusalem in 1982. He currently runs a private practice in Beverly Hills, California specializing in adult psychotherapy, personal growth counseling, dating coaching, and marital therapy. In addition, he provides an international coaching and counseling service via telephone helping people with their personal and relationship challenges. Visit his website at www.claritytalk.com.


16 Jewish Principles to Live By

In the spirit of Crosby, Stills and Nash, “You who are on the road, must have a code that you can live by.”

From Contempt to Connection

Six steps for disconnected couples to move towards connection.

6 Ways to be Your Best Dating Self

How to give yourself the best chance with the person you’re dating.

A Key to Finding Inner Peace: Understand Your Emotional Pain

If we have the courage to listen to our pain and learn from it, we will find inner peace and empowerment.

Ten Ways to Marry the Wrong Person

Blind love is not the way to choose a spouse. Here are practical tools for keeping your eyes wide open.

A Disastrous Dating Mistake

Being aware of your feelings and having the courage to be emotionally honest with another is essential to dating, and something many people aren't very good at.

How to Know You're Marrying the Right Person

Ten ways to be confident he or she is the one.

Ten Signs of Emotionally Healthy Relationships

Is this relationship healthy?

7 Ways to Move Forward After a Break Up

How to get closure and learn from the difficult experience.

10 Qualities of an Emotionally Mature Person

An emotionally mature person lives with self-knowledge, vitality and inner peace. Here are ten telltale signs of a person who is emotionally mature.

Aspiring Jew: A Double-Edged Sword

How to strive to live with great ideals despite constantly falling short.

Life Pain or Traumatic Pain?

Life pain is conscious and tolerable. Traumatic pain is unbearable and requires help in facing it.

Towards Perfection: The Rose, the Grizzly Bear, and the Robin

Only the human being is involved in the experience of self-creation.

 

5 Ways to Build Yourself Up this Yom Kippur

Keep these ideas in mind to prevent Yom Kippur from becoming a day of shame and guilt.

Ten Steps to Shed Toxic Shame and Build Self-Esteem

How to begin a process of transforming your shame into self-esteem.

Your 10 Responsibilities for Being Human

Judaism mandates that one must take full responsibility for his life. Here is a check list of the ten most fundamental responsibilities.

The Three Types of Conversations in Marriage

How to regain hope when love grows cold.

Why Am I So Angry? How to Transform Difficult Feelings

Every feeling has a powerful lesson to teach us something important about who we are.

Listening to Difficult Emotions

When we face reality no matter how uncomfortable or scary, we feel alive, stronger, and more at peace.

How to Reach Your Personal Exodus

Liberate your will by embracing the power of small.

4 Steps to Stop Most Fights

How to stop any fight and go from adversaries to peaceful collaborators.

Eight Habits of Emotionally Healthy People

They don’t beat themselves up after reading this article.

You Can Love Anyone

Love is a choice.

Are You for Real? Greatness versus Grandiosity

True greatness comes from self-acceptance, self-love, and confidence. Grandiosity comes from insecurity and emptiness.

The Dangers of Being a People Pleaser

The difference between healthy and unhealthy giving.

The 7 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make

These are the serious ones that emotionally harm our children.

7 Ways to Become Your Best Self

Don’t settle for the counterfeit versions like power, success, fame, status, and wealth. Here’s how to insure that you’re on the right path.

Why Get Married

Four reasons to help you clarify if you’re ready to get married.

My Husband’s Insidious Affair with Work

Beware of the dangers of triangulation in your marriage.

Getting Ready for Intimacy

Rate your intimacy potential and learn how to strengthen it.

How Strong a Person are You?

Gauge yourself with this test.

Finding Your Unique Purpose

A 5-step exercise to discover your unique contribution to the world.

Are You Living Your Life or Someone Else’s?

8 questions to ask to take ownership of your life.

Build Yourself Up, Don’t Beat Yourself Down

5 ideas to keep in mind to turn Yom Kippur into a day of empowerment.

Shofar: The Call of Love

God wants a relationship with us. How badly do you want a relationship with Him?

Tyranny of the Should

How to free yourself from the destructive, incessant pressure to be perfect.

Inside Out & Emotional Integration

The more we embrace our emotions, the more alive we feel.

The Depth of Inside/Out

The Disney film teaches one of the most powerful principles for experiencing joy.

Perfectionism

Cracks enable the light to get in.

Discovering Your True Self

How to listen to your own inner voice.

7 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

An infographic on how to know you’re ready to tie the knot.

5 Ways to Have a Blast on Rosh Hashanah

How to get the most out of the High Holidays.

Pay Attention to Your Feelings

Don’t ignore your feelings. They are keys to self-discovery.

Judaism’s Bill of Obligations in Marriage

A daily reminder on what it means to be a mensch.

10 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

How to know you're ready to tie the knot.

Get More Pleasure Out of Marriage

A simple tool guaranteed to improve your marriage if you commit to trying it.

7 Steps to Lasting Love

How to stay in love the rest of your life.

Ten Questions to Ask Yourself

Sometimes life is overwhelming and we need to put things back into focus. These 10 simple questions will do wonders.

Six Habits of Happily Married Couples

Success in marriage hinges on consistent performance of these key habits.

5 Steps to a Great Marriage #5: Be Masters of Growth and Healing

A crucial task of marriage is to allow yourself to discover your weaknesses and take responsibility for working on and correcting them.

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