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Breaking a Child's Trust
Salomon Says

Breaking a Child's Trust

Is there ever a real justification?

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Published: February 4, 2012


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Visitor Comments: 27

(23) Anonymous, February 16, 2012 7:17 AM

Selfish? Liability? Indifference?

Obviously there are situations where one doesn't get involved, but for many people they don't want the responsibility and possible repercussions! Lack of doing is a choice also and if we are responsible for our fellow, it may be a difficult but correct! How many people have the courage or caring to take a stand and make the effort?! I sense from some of the comments a certain indifference. Should we not question our true motives ?

(22) peter kraynik, February 12, 2012 10:45 AM

Negative Commandment 281 Listening to a Single Litigant "You shall not raise a false report"—Exodus 23:1. A judge may not listen to the arguments of one of the parties in a case if the other party is not present. This because, for the most part, arguments presented by a party when not in the presence of the opposing party are false. This mitzvah ensures that the judge doesn't approach the case with any untrue prejudice. From: "Chabad.org" Daily Mitzvah (Maimonides)

Sidney Strauss, February 13, 2012 1:24 AM

You shall not stand idly next to your fellowman's blood

(See also my response #5) This is not about a court case. There is a clear commnadment in the Torah not to be inactive when your felowman is faced with the potential loss of either life, limb or property. Of course this has to be balanced with not routinely revealing secrets, or not relating derogatory or untrue information. (Since this is a Jewish Forum, priests keeping items secret is totally irrelevant despite what #21 writes.)

(21) SusanE, February 9, 2012 1:51 AM

Ask your Daughter

Ask your daughter what she wants to happen. Does she want you to stop her from being with the other 15 year old? Does she want to know what she can to say to her friend about the inappropriate behavior? Is it possible the daughter is doing some of the same things that the other girl is doing and this is the way for her to open the communication with her father about herself? Too many variables, including the fact that what the daughter said is heresay to the father He doesn't know for sure the information is correct.. To go to the parents with simply the daughters accusation, is just unthinkable. A physician takes an oath to not reveal a patients records. A priest takes an oath to keep secrets of strangers. A Fathers bond of trust with his daughter should be at least that sacred.

(20) Anonymous, February 8, 2012 9:29 PM

I basicly agree. How about consulting an big Rabbi?

I basicly agree with Rabbi Salomon. However, if part of the relationship with the daughter includes Chinuch towards asking Wise Rabbis and submitting to their rulings then I would suggest to my daughter that this situation requires such a consultation. In the very least, I myself would ask a rabbi how to proceed with such a difficult dilemma. Thank you Rabbi Salomon for getting us to think!

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