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Spanking: Is it okay?

Spanking: Is it okay?

It's USA Today vs. The Torah

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(30) Anonymous, April 17, 2012 2:44 PM

its okay if done the right way

I was not spanked by my parents, however the scholl I went to did spank. Only the Principal was allowed to administer a spanking only after a warning in private. Generaly he spanked with his hand with the child standing with hands on knees but for more serious misbehavior a paddle was used with the child standing behind a cahir with hands flat on the seat. this punishment was only used fron the age of seven until twelve and only very rarley. I only got the paddle once aged ten for cutting class. I was already under warning for something else so the paddle was taken out, i was made to bend over a chair and recieved four hard smacks. It hurt a lot but I do not resent it

(29) Anonymous, November 20, 2007 3:54 PM

i am akid and i think it depends on the child.

i am a kid and i have been spanked but only on aboat 5 ocasions. my mother only spanked me when it was for safety like when i crossed the street by myself when i was five. it depends on the kid AND his reaction to the child. i think spanking to often can distance the child from the parent making their relationship bad and so on and so forth. i am 12 years old and spanking dosnt work any more on me but i defenetly remember the day i was spanked

(28) Anonymous, November 13, 2007 8:29 PM

Don't hit kids

We should always deal with children in a peaceful and loving way - it is all that they understand. Hitting, yelling, name-calling, mental/psychological abuse, time-outs, whatever. It's all punitive and damaging to children. Teach, guide, instruct - gently.

(27) Anonymous, September 12, 2007 3:39 AM

Consider a Different View of the Rod

Although I wasn't abused, I was spanked as a child, and it is at times, a constant struggle for me to forgive my parents for this, whom I love very much. I'll go for long periods not thinking of it, but then something will bring it to mind (or my mom will casually mention that she thinks spanking is a good idea), and I have to forgive my parents all over again. I know they were only doing what they felt was right and best for me - they are good people and good parents. I just wish they had given more consideration to whether or not spanking was really necessary, and I wish they had only used it when absolutely necessary.

I agree that if it is to be used, it should only be used *very* sparingly and only when absolutely necessary. Also, studies show that it's less effective after the age of 5 and should no longer be used. For one thing, the child is older, and a spanking might feel like an invasion of personal space, especially since they are usually administered to ones... well, backside, an area that most of us would agree is private - if a member of the opposite sex were to playfully tap you there, you might feel a bit invaded upon! ...just something to think about.

Another point is that after the age of 5, children can discern between right and wrong. Don't we want our children to obey because they *want* to obey, because they *want* to do what's right - rather than obeying because they were *forced* to obey? Doing something out of force, or fear of punishment, is not doing it from one's heart, and in many cases, doing something due to fear can often be accompanied by feelings of anger.

Instead of spanking our children, why not use the rod of correction, which to me, is the rod of *instruction* - the shepherd lovingly guides his sheep with the rod, so we should consider lovingly guiding our children through teaching them.

(26) Gavriel Burnett, August 16, 2007 3:37 PM

It is ok on the right circumstances

We have a child with a very severe anger problem and when he becomes out of control I will give him a spanking

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