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It's None of Your Business

It's None of Your Business

Lying to protect your privacy.

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Published: October 27, 2007


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Visitor Comments: 29

(29) Anonymous, October 27, 2013 9:50 PM

IMO there are 2 ways to handle intrusive questions without lying. The first way is to answer a question with a question. If an individual has asked a supremely private question, I would turn it around and ask him/her why he/she would ask me such a personal question. The other option is to say I don't feel comfortable discussing such a matter. My family of origin (parents, siblings) had no boundaries. Whenever I refused to answer their intrusive questions I was accused of being "secretive." Protecting one's private life is NOT being secretive. In this day and age of facebook and twitter, we really need to protect our privacy and that of our spouses and children.

(28) Anonymous, September 27, 2011 5:58 AM

Also, if someone says something I don't like but it is the truth, I will respect it although, I may not like it. But if they lie, that makes me disrespect them, because if you lie about one thing, you will lie about something else.

(27) Anonymous, September 27, 2011 5:54 AM

I disagree.

How do you feel when people lie to you? I tell you how I feel. I never trust them again. I feel demeaned. Even if a person asks you a question that is personal, just be honest and say you don't care to discuss that, it is personal. Maybe they are just making conversation. To say no, is a personal choice but to lie, is to hurt someone's feeling because most people can tell if you are lying. I caught my boss in a few lies and I seriously give her no information anymore because she manipulates people with misinformation and lies. Honesty is always the best policy and honors God. Dishonesty, except to safe a life, is a cop-out and destructive.

(26) Anesu, August 30, 2011 8:45 PM

I don't agree t lying under no circumstance at all. I agree with other answers like "the subject isn't open for discussion, at the moment."

(25) Loretta, March 15, 2010 1:33 AM

Finances

I have a problem with people asking me how much I pay for things. It's so rude! If they are not paying for it, what does it matter to them. Also, what I feel is a reasonable price for something may not be reasonable to someone else. Instead of someone just being happy you bought a car or something.....they want to steal your joy. I like the response "it's not up for discussion" or I'm not in a position to discuss that. Any other thoughts would be helpful Those RUDE people are really ticking me off.

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