Downplay It

Home
» Blogs

Lori Almost Live Archive

Read and add your comments below.

Give Tzedakah! Help Aish.com create inspiring
articles, videos and blogs featuring timeless Jewish wisdom.

Published: November 3, 2007

Visitor Comments: 15

(15) Catherine Manna, November 10, 2007 3:16 PM

Save a life

My husband and I we were talking about your latest blog, and came to one conclusion: You're not entirely wrong. Darryl said to me, "The only exception to lying is this: 'Are you hiding any Jews?'" Of course you're going to say, NO even if you are! To save someones life -- that is the only reason that you should lie!

(14) Cecil, November 9, 2007 2:46 PM

Justification for lying

How do you justify lying just so someone's feelings are not hurt ? Are feelings more important than truth ?

(13) Sharon, November 9, 2007 7:48 AM

Loved the video

This was my first time downloading one of Lori's videos. It touched me - I'll be back.

(12) Shoshana-Dvora, November 9, 2007 7:43 AM

lying & shidduchim

Lori,
I agree with most of what your're saying. Please do an "Almost Live" segment on lying & shidduchim. I fudge my age on JDate (but tell the truth on the 3rd date if it goes that far), but I really resent it when matchmakers lie to me about critical issues, things that I would probably dcline the match if I knew beforehand. When this happened, and I immediately saw the guy was wrong for me I spent the date feeling angry at the shadcahn. I feel badly, because that wasn't fair to the guy. On the other hand, I sensed on a couple of dates that the guy was disappointed in me. C'est la vie.
Also, there are a couple of books out out there, both by Dr. Brad Blanton. One is Radical Honesty and the other one is Practicing Radical Honesty . I'd like you opinion of what he has to say. Keep up the good work.

(11) Tom, November 9, 2007 6:25 AM

People's Feelings are more important than Truth?

People's feelings are more important than truth? Says who? I totally disagree! Silence may be appropriate at times but never a lie. I want my friends to tell me the truth even if it will hurt my feelings. How else can I grow?
God hates lies and therefore why shouldn't we?

(10) Anonymous, November 8, 2007 9:53 PM

Why?

I dont understand. It will take a long time to regain the trust after finding out someone you love has lied to you even if it was a stupid lie, or a small one. a small one today a bigger one tommorow, then no more marriage! Lori, how would you feel, if you were the one that was being lied to? By someone you love? It just doesnt make sense to me.

(9) Linda, November 7, 2007 7:55 PM

the truth

When I open the videos, I feel comfortable, like I am listening to the advise of a dear friend who would not steer me wrong. I go away changed.
thank you.

(8) Aaron Kraicshtein, November 7, 2007 1:44 PM

Why almost live?

Lori Palatnik, why 'almost live?' to me, and I believe all your viewers you are totaly alive and an inspiration to us. Keep up the great work.
Aaron

(7) Mark Singer, November 7, 2007 12:45 PM

Jewish Law

My understanding is that lying, under Jewish law, is permissible under three circumstances: 1) to protect someone's feelings, 2) to protect the peace of the community and 3) to protect someone's life. Lori acknowledges the first one, but applies to different exceptions. Please, if anyone really knows, what are the actual Halachic exceptions to lying? Thanks, Mark

(6) Ellen, November 7, 2007 7:02 AM

Takes the guilt away to lie

Thanks Lori for your interesting and infomative prespective on lying. I have done this kind of lying for years and now the guilt is washed away. It's nice to breath easy knowing I was doing the right thing all along.

(5) ELIYAHU GIGI, November 7, 2007 1:56 AM

I LOVE THESE VIDEO'S

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THESE GREAT LESSONS. I HAVE FOUND ALL YOUR LESSONS APPLICABLE TO MY EVERYDAY LIFE AND THATS WHAT KEEPS ME SEEKING THEM, WATCHING THEM AND SENDING THEM TO OTHERS. THANKS AGAIN!

(4) Ms.Z, November 6, 2007 5:20 PM

we love you Lori!

We eargly anticipate your weekly wisdom every week we learn something and have something to think about. Thank-you!!!

(3) Alejandro Levy, November 5, 2007 1:00 AM

How do you apply this to business

Dear Lori

Every morning, before I go to work, I go to the Aish Web Site to watch your video (they are far to short) and I apply what I have learn to my day..

However, how could be humble in such a competitive work environment? How do apply and lives Jewish lives in a not Jewish work environment??

I know that this is perhaps not a question to ask. And might not be the topic of your video, but perhaps an idea for the next one??

Thanks

Alejandro

(2) Yisroel Pollack, November 4, 2007 12:51 PM

True Lies

Mrs. Palatnik tch"y,
I am once again grateful for your delightfully executed bouts of edification. But here's what it occurs to me to say...
With all these exceptions to the Don't Lie rule, it's beginning to look as if lying is no cardinal sin to begin with. The 'exceptions' can undoubtedly be multiplied: You could do a skit on how it's ok to lie to protect your friend's honor or privacy. It's ok to lie to prevent an outbreak of animosity or interpersonal discord from occurring. It's ok to lie to make a cute little girl laugh. And so on and so forth! The moral of the story seems to be: It's not about being true to the next person; it's about being true to oneself. And provided that this self-transparency is securely preserved, outwardly manifestations of the urge to fib are to be graciously tolerated. Of course, this idea of true-to-self is itself very elusive and begs for illumination. But that could well be the subject of yet another installment. In any event, it's no exaggeration to say that your productions remain a source of immense inspiration to all those seeking a ray of truth in this bewildering cultural milieu or ours.
YP

(1) Laya, November 4, 2007 10:24 AM

Thanks!

This is great life coaching. Thanks for the guidance.

See All Comments

stub

About the Author

Mrs. Lori Palatnik

More by this Author >

Lori Palatnik is a writer and Jewish educator who has appeared on television and radio, and is the author of "Friday Night and Beyond: The Shabbat Experience Step-By-Step," "Remember My Soul - What to do in Memory of a Loved One," and co-author of "Gossip: 10 Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul." She is a much sought-after international speaker, having lectured in the U.S., Canada, Mexico, U.K., Central America, South America, South Africa and Israel, including featured talks at Yale, Brown and Penn. She lives in the Washington D.C. area, with her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik. Lori is the Founder of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project, an international initiative that brings over 1,000 women to Israel each year from ten different countries on highly subsidized programs to inspire them with the beauty and wisdom of their heritage. She is the busy mother of five children, ages 24 to 14; and her son, Zev, just finished serving as a sharpshooter in the IDF. Her weekly video blog, "Lori Almost Live" is a popular feature on aish.com, viewed by over 50,000 people each month.

Follow Lori on Twitter, @LoriAlmostLive

Downplay It

You know and God knows, and no one else needs to know what you did.

Visitor Comments: 15

Submit Your Comment:

About the Author

Related Articles:

LANGUAGES:

AFFILIATES:

SECTIONS:

EMAIL LISTS:

ABOUT:

FOLLOW US: