The Worth of a Man

Three ways to know if this is the right guy..

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(11) Shoshana Moskovitz, May 27, 2009 11:49 AM

Very insightful message

After watching this video, I know I married the "right man" with G-d's help. I got married at an older age(almost 31) and went out with real jerks, I am sorry to say. I hope that young ladies really take this to heart. Keep up with the great lessons,Lori.

(10) jonathan, June 2, 2008 5:15 PM

what about the right girl

what are the three ways to check the girl?
one might be, tzniyut.

tom, August 29, 2013 1:49 AM

right girl and modesty

Keep in mind a man must also be modest in speech, dress, and actions.

(9) Deena, April 8, 2008 1:04 AM

So dangerous

I strongly disagree with this video, and other things like this where people are trying to give advice on how to know if he/she is the "right" one. Why? Because it seems like they're almost always assuming that people should be looking for a perfect person with perfect midot.

But you forget that you're talking to someone who themselves is not perfect! For example, I myself get angry at things, not always the right things. I don't always spend my money on the most rightious things. But I should be looking for someone who only gets angry for the right reasons?

I think that those three things are good ways to find out about a person's personality but not only the person you're considering marrying, your own too! We must be honest about who we ourselves are and not expect to end up with someone in a totally different place than us.

(8) Susan, April 2, 2008 9:13 PM

So True ! Also about Women.

You are soooo right, Lori. Men certainly do show themselves in those ways you mentioned. Younger and older alike. I've been dating recently. There are good, fun, nice men out there. HOWEVER.....

It's also a jungle out there. I didn't know!

I don't date drinkers, so had to find another way to see a mans' true character.
You can tell a 'nice guy' in the first 15 minutes of shooting a game of pool with him.

It doesn't take long to see how a man spends his money either.
The self-indulgent man shows up his selfish habits really fast.

I agree with the above posters. How do we determine character in women?

(7) Bonita, March 26, 2008 4:04 PM

That's genius! And for men, the same rules for women could be this: watch very carefully next time you bring her shopping. What does she buy? How does she goes about doing this? Where does she do her shopping? It'll tell you everything you need to know! :)

(6) Judith, March 23, 2008 6:46 PM

These rules do apply to women..........

This is still predominantly a man's world, so it is nice that Lori does take the woman into consideration. After all, the woman is the child bearer and at some point dependent on the husband, hence being more vulnerable to a degree.

But YES this does apply to women too. When I heard Lori speak, I could relate this to both myself and my husband.

These questions (both for men and women) really place everything in a nutshell and sum it up so well!

Lori, we had the privilege of hearing both you and your husband at the last Pesach program we attended in Puerto Rico. You were so inspiring and I look at your clips every week. My husband went to your husband's shiur and still refers back to it until today. Thank you Lori.

(5) Marc, March 22, 2008 4:21 PM

Follow-Up Needed

How are the Kis, Kos and Kas applied to women? A follow-up is needed here. Should a man look at how a woman spends money, how she acts after drinking, and what she gets angry about? Or do women get a free pass on this issue as men also search for a mate? Please do a follow-up video of Lori Almost Live addressing these very important questions. I see above that I am not the only person raising these issues or requesting that you address them in a follow-up! Thank you.

(4) Lilian Rzechte, March 20, 2008 3:33 PM

Kis, Kos Kas

I guess the same three things apply to women...Am I right, Lori?

(3) Jörg, March 20, 2008 2:10 PM

Hi Lori,

thank You for all your statements and preachings - I love your videos. I always listen to them. Hearing to You I often get moved, get tears in my eyes or get a big smile on my face. Simply love You! Shalom from a Christian in Germany.

May it be possible You come one day to visit us here in Germany?

(2) Meira Lerman, March 19, 2008 12:06 PM

Talmud Mainenace

Kis Kos and Kas is as genius as simple!
Thank you Lori, you always bring us messages from the heaven in time!

(1) judith, March 19, 2008 7:21 AM

and women?

And is there a... "Three ways to know if this is the right woman... for men also?


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