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The Woman who Can't Forget
Salomon Says

The Woman who Can't Forget

Perfect memory: is it a blessing or a curse?

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Published: May 17, 2008


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Visitor Comments: 31

(31) Dennis, May 31, 2008 12:31 AM

No.

I don''t to remember all the mistakes that I have done. All the arguments and fights I have been while growing up and while I have been an adult.

(30) Deborah, May 24, 2008 8:40 AM

blessing

I feel two things about this woman''s situation.
1. We don''t know why, but perhaps this is a blessing for her to remember everything. If there is a reason for everything, then there surely must be a reason for her to remember. Maybe we''ll be blessed with finding out why at a later time.

And two, I feel that it is a blessing that her life is ordinary and everyday. Sometimes ordinary people are blessed with extraordinary gifts or situations. Also, it would be so painful to recall with vivid detail every awful thing that happened. It is a gift that HaShem gives us to soften our memories over time, the bad lessens and the good gets better.

I love these video blogs!

(29) Sheila Halet, May 23, 2008 2:27 PM

That is my problem too

Nice Article Rabbi. I have that kind of memory too - words that hurt and words that don''t etc. etc. It troubles me that at age 65 - I allow myself to remember. OYE VAY!!!!

(28) Sarah C, May 22, 2008 11:22 PM

glad not to be Jill Price

No, I do want to trade my place with Jill Price.

I am glad that I have forgotten a lot of fights I have had with people -- to forgive and to forget is a good thing.
However, a few bigger fights seem to be stuck in my memory, I guess for those I still need to learn something from them.

Thanks to technology, I have captured moments of joy from my children, since they were babies. I regret having not taken more of these "Kodak moments". Some of them even occur on Shabbos, so I can''t capture them.

I regret that my brain is not functioning as well as I would like, no thanks to aging. I would like to remember more Torah. Pirkei Avos this week seems to say that one who learns Torah to teach others Torah and to do the mitzvos will get help from Heaven to do just that. Perhaps I''m not learning Torah the right way.

This is a good topic for this week. Thank you for letting me share my thoughts.

(27) Rena, May 22, 2008 8:25 AM

We THINK we remember the good and not the bad, but since we don''t remember, how do we know? I know I have forgotten the pain of childbirth because people remind you about having forgotten, but perhaps I have forgotten 100 incredibly joyous moments no one reminds me about?

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