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Marriage and Mental Illness
Salomon Says

Marriage and Mental Illness

Are they mutually exclusive?


Published: July 26, 2008

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Visitor Comments: 38

(35) Yochevet Uziel Weinberger, May 3, 2013 7:53 PM

One doesn't know everything ahead of time

when I married my husband I knew I was moody. After years of marriage, I was diagnosed as bipolar. I started on medication, which changed my life and made me into a more equal partner. My brother is also bipolar, has a lot of recovery, but his marriage went belly-up after 13 years. My close friend married someone who probably has a personality disorder making her physically and mentally abusive. They were both Jewish, but that was not enough. He recently remarried a Jewish woman who seems much more stable, and I have hope for them.

(34) rona, July 1, 2012 4:19 AM

is a person with mental illness obligated to keep halacha

hi, i believe my husband has some form of narcissism. he is refusing help and this may potentially be a cause to end our marriage. I have cyclothemia but through natural medicine, have kept it under control. are we, as people with mental illness, obligated to keep the halachot? we are often shunned in shul. this summer, at the camp I work at as an art specialist, i was given a hard time when the assistant i work with caught me taking my medicine. i was extremely annoyed at this because she was judgemental yet she herself is asian and a convert and had a bit of a time being accepted by the jewish community herself. so my question remains; if we are not so easily accepted by the community, are we obligated to keep all of the mitzvot?

(33) Shoshana, February 27, 2011 4:39 AM

Misdiagnosis of Bipolar

You mentioned that Bipolar is often misdiagnosed. How does one know if their diagnosis of bipolar is accurate or not?

(32) Rochel, August 10, 2009 6:36 PM


Having been married to a man with bi-polar for ten years and having two of my three children stricken with depression, I would have LOVED to have read this book when I was 18 years old. It explores textbook cases in laymen's terms. I am VEHEMENTLY opposed to someone that knowingly tricks people into marrying them rather than finding someone who is OK with it.

(31) Miriam, January 1, 2009 4:21 PM

Kudos to Rabbi Salomon

My sincerest thanks to Rabbi Salomon for addressing this important issue. As a single myself, I wonder about how and when I will tell my spouse to be about my years-long battle with depression, finally resulting in a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. Other than my (somewhat infrequent) mania and depressive episodes, I lead a normal and productive life. I have many friends and a successful career. To someone who does not see me all the time, I look and behave like anyone else. I know that when the time comes, I will urge my spouse-to-be to speak with both my therapist and psychiatrist so he can get a clear idea of what he will have to deal with if he were to marry me. I do not see this as an optional thing, nor do I believe it should wait until after we get engaged. As part of the full disclosure, I want anyone who would be ready to make a lifetime commitment to me to clearly understand it will not be easy.

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