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Out of Faith
Lori Almost Live

Out of Faith

What it takes to ensure your granchildren will marry Jewish.

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Published: February 14, 2009


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Visitor Comments: 43

(43) Chris, May 19, 2009 8:46 PM

Too Late?

Having been a Chris who was brought home to meet the family, I ask the question: Why should it take 25 years to answer the question "Why Judaism?" Should not the parents' responsibility be to answer and reinforce this question daily? Given that inter-marriage rates are increasing, one is left to assume that this question is being neglected. What is also interesting is that apparently it is no longer such an easy question to answer - if it were, you might expect to see the prior 42 comments filled with ideas on how best to pass along the tradition to future generations. How did we get here? How do we move forward?

(42) Kent & Ann Rose, February 27, 2009 6:46 PM

Inspired

Lori, We don't know if you answer all your emails or not but we wanted to let you know what great advise you give us along life's journey. Thank you so much for doing what you do. Kent & Ann Rose

(41) Anonymous, February 24, 2009 11:15 PM

To comment #6

Hello, I was the person that gave the first comment, and you took issue with what I said. I just wanted to apologize, I did not mean to offend you. You sound as if you care about the religion very much and I should not have made such a general statement about conservative and reform Jewish people. So I am very sorry to have upset you. I would like to explain what I meant, however. To me, religion is defined as a lifestyle. If you are religious then you are keeping strictly kosher (not just eating only kosher meat on the outside and buying OU and K products, I mean using separate dishes for meat and dairy, not eating in non-kosher restaurants, etc.), observing the shabbos fully (that means not driving, no watching television, no turning on electric, no cooking, etc.-not just lighting candles friday night in other words), praying twice daily (or at least once a day). If you are observing these laws plus other laws of the torah, then you are what I consider religious. This is what I mean when I define the word 'religion' as a lifestyle. If one was to be a 'religious' Jew, then how on earth could they marry a non-jewish person? Spouses must have things in common and share a similar life style. A person participating in Judaism, the religion, not just the culture, would have a difficult time sharing a life with someone who doesn't have those same values. Also, if a person was truly keeping the religion then they would know that intermarriage is forbidden in the Torah anyway. That is what I meant when I said that reform and conservative Jewish people are pushing a culture and not a religion. I'm sorry I worded it the way I did without explanation. But as reform and conservative Jewish people do not live that kind of religious lifestyle (that's why they call themselves reform and conservative, after all) then in my mind, they aren't following the religion to it's fullest. And since they aren't, what would be stopping the children from marrying non-Jews? When you aren't keeping the religion to it's fullest, it's much easier to find things in common with people of another religion, and much easier to share a life together.

(40) Dov, February 23, 2009 4:45 PM

what does it mean to be Jewish? To #24, Suzanne T.

I have found no better answer to "What does it mean to be Jewish?" that Rav Noach's material. Especially the Six Constant Mitzvos and his Forty-eight Ways series, both available free on the site. Good luck to all of us!

(39) Robert, February 20, 2009 10:06 AM

I agree with you Michael

Your right on Michael. I am a very committed Jew. I keep Sabbath and Kosher. I would consider myself Conservadox. I am comfortable going to services in a Conservative, Sefardi or Chabad shul. I was once married to a Jewish woman and I have my Jewish sons. After my divorce (with an Orthodox get) I had only thought about dating Jewish women. But after five years (including Jdate, frumster) I became very frustrated. Then, my friend introduced me to a female friend of his. She was Latina but the connection I had with her was uncanny - I finally understood what the term "soulmate" meant. Unfortunately,that relationship did not work out - but I have decided for my happiness with a woman here on earth, to keep all options open. Besides, I believe that Judaism has so much to offer, that a non Jewish woman could convert!

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