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The Shidduch System
Salomon Says

The Shidduch System

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Published: April 18, 2009


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Visitor Comments: 41

(41) Anonymous, November 14, 2012 11:02 AM

Great movie - says it all

Hi, I saw a great movie the other day about this topic, it's about a Hindu man who believes in the idea of an 'arranged marriage' and he explores all the benefits spoken about by Rabbi Yaakov Salomon in this video. It's called "When Harry gets married". I'm committed to the Shidduch system and writing more here: http://yarmi.org

(40) Kanwarjeet Singh, December 23, 2010 6:35 PM

Well said

Dear Rabbi - I belong to the Sikh faith and I agree 100%. Well said. Some of us in the Sikh faith follows the same arranged marriage system where in the parents do the formal introduction and then it is left to the children to make their choice.

(39) Anonymous, December 7, 2010 12:43 AM

agree with author of "the real problem"

I wholeheartedly agree with the poster of "the real problem", unfortunately this is not a problem that is getting the attention it requires. Too many women being pressured to sell themselves short and get treated as objects. This is a by product of secular values but somehow got passed on as an expectation with regards to shiduchim. I don't think that we are creating better Jewish homes in enabling this sexist/ageist model as the ideal. The only way this is going to change is when " good frum women" en masse learn to say no. I am confident that such a development would propel klal Yisroel to a higher spiritual stature.

(38) Anonymous, June 1, 2009 7:31 PM

Consult your Local Orthodox Rabbi

I read a few interesting comments here. Consult your local Orthodox Rabbi before taking anything too seriously on this board.

(37) Jane, April 27, 2009 8:27 PM

actually, I agree

I do not come from a religious family, yet I think Rabbi Salomon has a point -parents and other members of the community should be involved in looking for good matches for their grown children (assuming the children are amenable to the idea). It drives me crazy how my mother always nags me about getting married, yet she has never set me up with anyone despite her large social circle of friends with sons my age. I've met boyfriends on my own, but my mother is often critical about them, saying they're not good enough or whatever. I feel like my parents have my best interests at heart, and I would appreciate their participation instead of their criticism!

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