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Keeping People Waiting
Salomon Says

Keeping People Waiting

Are you guilty?

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Published: November 21, 2009

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Visitor Comments: 26

(26) SusanE, May 11, 2015 4:19 PM

Always Late? Not any more.

Six years ago when this article was posted I was commenter #1. New friends and old friends are still being late. I have Jewish friends who call their chronic tardiness, keeping Jewish time. I have Mormon friends who call their chronic lateness keeping Mormon time. 5 minutes late, a mere 300 seconds, can usually be excused.....once. We're talking about people who are always late for appointments, meetings, dinner, weddings, funerals.. Everyone has phones with timers. Set your timer and be out the door the minute it goes off. 10 minutes tardy is too late. If you plan on being late all the time you can also plan on being early.

The ego and entitlement of those who inconvenience everyone else by being late is profound. I know about this because I was always never quite ready to go out the door. Always 15 minutes late to everywhere. Friends called me on it and I saw the huge selfishness of my ways. I haven't been late in years. There is NO excuse for being always late.. Plan ahead. Leave earlier.

(25) Anonymous, December 9, 2009 7:24 PM

wedding waiting!!

im making a wedding in a few weeks: one area that we can definately improve in is response cards for simchas (and im guilty of taking my time to return them too and didnt realize how important it was till im on the other side)...its very stressful not being able to plan seating arrangements or know how many people to pay for till the week of the simcha (especially when it's a wedding) and the bride and groom want to be focussing on much more important matters like preparing spiritually and emotionally for the big day! something to think about!

(24) Anonymous, November 29, 2009 6:52 AM

This is well put. In recent years, especially since hearing Rabbi Pesach Krohn mention this in one of his devrei Torah, I have become conscious of the fact that by keeping someone waiting, we are stealing this person's time, which really ia part of his/her life. Rabbi Salamon, you have again reiforced this idea and I always try not to keep someone waiting unnecessarily.

(23) Anonymous, November 29, 2009 6:50 AM

I try to respond to emails within 48 business hours. The goal is to respond within 24. If something seems like it will need more time for me to write out a proper response, I send a quick note that acknowledges I have received the author's information, am taking it into consideration, and will get back to them in X amount of time. When dealing with lines at the post office, grocery store, or wherever, I either 1) listen to a lecture on my mp3 player; 2) take out a book or article I've folded into my pocketbook or coat; or 3) start to do some subtle calf raises and stretches. It'll cut down on my workout time later. If we can't get others to be more careful with their time, we can still take responsbility for maximizing usage of our own. For suggestion 2), I sometimes put in ear plugs so that I can have greater focus on the material.

(22) Anonymous, November 26, 2009 9:58 AM

Rabbi this info is sooo needed. Very good and thank you. Like someone said earlier, please write this out - and give us some suggestions, I have about a dozen friends I could share this with. I've had to wait 1 or 2 hours on some of these friends, (one person has small children) and I'm tired of enabling them.

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