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Crying Girl on Plane

What do you do when you witness poor parenting.


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Visitor Comments: 92

(92) Anonymous, January 8, 2014 4:19 PM

You may not like this, but... your own reporting, you did not witness bad parenting by either the mother or the father. What you have witnessed to is bad passengers. Each and everyone of you that was witnessed the on going augrument, who had it within their power to complain that the situation was disturbing them, and didn't: failed the good passenger test. If enough had complained, would not the parents and child have been spoken to? Would this had not sent a larger, more meaningful, and effective message to the family? No, Lori, I think you're great; but, any passenger, that was disturbed by the disturbance, that felt emotionally involved, who didn't complain to the staff failed that family; failed that child, failed themselves and their fellow passengers, and the airline. It is just my opinion. The only right you had, because it was disturbing your flight, you didn't exercise: to complain to the staff.

(91) Irwin Graulich, December 23, 2013 2:11 AM

You should not feel guilty

Rebbetzin Lori--It is very dangerous for you to get involved unless you were on an El Al plane and the father was wearing a kipah. You never know how someone will react and a strangers comments or involvement can make the situation much worse, as well as enrage both parents.

I know how guilty you feel, but that is the wrong emotion. A meshuganah parent could get enraged, smack you and tell you to mind your own business. It should only be reported to the police if you see that the child is struck so that it could break a bone or draw blood. Unfortunately, that is the only solution possible without knowing a lot more details.

(90) Emelda Rodriguez, August 21, 2013 4:29 AM

An opportunity to pray

Witnessing an act of poor parenting is very discouraging. As a by-stander, you can only close your eyes for a second and begin to pray for peace and protection not just for the child but for the family as a whole. Words can sometimes bring awareness but it can also make the situation worse.

(89) chava, February 14, 2012 9:17 PM

Let's lighten up a bit

Let's lighten things up a bit. Jeanne Robertson (a"h) was a very funny (non-Jewish) comedienne. I think the stories she told were true. She spoke of a mother arguing loudly with her teen daughter on a plane. Everyone was looking down or up or anywhere to avoid staring. The last line was from the teen, "I'll go out with him even if you don't want me to. And he is, too, a nice boy. Why else would he be doing 200 hours of community service?!

(88) cherishashem, January 23, 2012 6:39 AM

My heart will tell me the best things to do.

I would discreetly tell the flight staff to call the the grounding airport security to hold the parents for questioning. If the flight staff chose to talk to the parents themselves instead, I would attempt to walk over with them. The flight staff would not have heard my silence. I would have supported whatever they chose to do except to allow them to do nothing. I feel they could then choose to make a discrete call to the landing airport authority to avoid negative confrontation to all on the flight. The worst thing to happen would be for the parents to recieve charges of not handling their daughter appropriately. The parents shouldn't feel concern at all if they're not hiding child abuse evidence. Thank you for asking for our input.

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