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The Cheater
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The Cheater

Are we expecting too much from our kids at school?

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Published: February 28, 2010


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Visitor Comments: 18

(18) Anonymous, January 5, 2011 5:18 AM

Yeah, sounds like me

I have to admit it, I have been putting pressure lately, but what is the right answer? I think if you don't give some espectations they will become mediocre , It may sound hard, but I'm being honest

(17) sm, April 20, 2010 2:14 AM

go easy on them

Kids are so burnt out because they have to be perfect so they can go to university and be more burnt out. I think parents should accept any accomplisment the child makes and appreciate that accomplishment even if it's only a B, and even if they only do well in some classes. Children need to know they don't have to be perfect, just try to do your best. Plus, children don't learn well if they have to do so much and they are very tired. - some parents say they're helping their children go to a pretegious university, however we don't know what's going to happen, the person might not become successful and happy. I'm Not saying don't push yourself. I'm just saying be realistic, if they can't do university, a person can go to a state college and still be successful and happy.

(16) Dvirah, March 10, 2010 3:43 PM

Reply to Mr. Ben Sion Shuali (comment 5, March 1 2010)

From personal experience: without pressure, a child will choose what interests him/her - and it is not always art or gym. My relatives nearly fainted when I chose Physics - with no pressure whatsoever!

(15) Anonymous, March 3, 2010 6:20 PM

Teaching the Wrong Values

It's not just a question of applying unfair pressure on children. Such kids are being coerced to resort to such mechanisms as cheating, lying, being nervous and insecure. Theyoften do not get positive feedback from parents unless they bring home superior results. Hence, they are less likely to be confident and happy than their less-pressured classmates.. Is this really the type of education and character development children should be experiencing? What type of an adult will they evolve into? How will they react to the real pressures of life?

(14) Feige Ferber, March 3, 2010 2:04 PM

On target!

We merited to raise a family of self-confident and happy children. One of the rules in our home was that effort counts - marks don't. Our children understood that if there was a subject that they were struggling with, we would get them a tutor if they wanted it. They knew that they had do their homework every day, listen in class and study for tests. As you point out Lori, adults don't do 100%; on everything either!!! Thanks for a great video.

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