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Protecting Sanctity of Marriage
Lori Almost Live

Protecting Sanctity of Marriage

Don't be naive. Protect what is precious.

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Published: July 31, 2010


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Visitor Comments: 83

(82) Anonymous, April 2, 2014 8:37 PM

wise advice

Wise advice with commonsense , but on analysis I can also see that it can be taken as being rather degrading towards men. Surely the concept applies to both genders.

(81) Anonymous, August 25, 2012 8:29 PM

I don't fully agree.

I don't fully agree with Lori. However there is truth to all or most men's desires, Trusting your spouse is most important. Being aware, being careful and not being naive is surely okay but without Trust you put yourself in a state of a 24 hour watch. Paranoia begins to build and then before you turn around every women your husband interacts with whether it be at work or a social gathering becomes a threat to you and irrational thoughts begin to fester. Trust your husband and Trust yourself. If something is going to happen it will happen when ever and for no reason, just because. If you give your husband reasons to look elsewhere, don't shed blame. Make yourself presentable always for your husband not to give him reason to believe that he has a shlump for a wife and giving him reason to gawk at other women. Be the good wife and partner to your husband as you would want him to be to you. Keeping your guard up at all times is very trying and damaging. Live and let live. Trust each other and be happy. Don't give reasons to suspect and argue about it. Life is short.

(80) Anonymous, January 6, 2012 3:10 AM

Wake Up!!!! Shes Right!

Im sorry, Mrs Palatnick is 100% right! In REALITY in the orthodox Jewish world there is LESS cheating and infidelity than the rest of the world because we put up these boundries, though they might seem extreme, in order to protect men from sinning. NO it is not a put down to men at all, G-D created men with a very strong desire and ANYONE can falter if they dont take the proper precautions. You dont drive your car too close to the edge of a cliff because you dont want to fall off, G-D forbid, its the same here, we make Gedarim in order to curb the inate desires that MOST men have (no that is not an insult to a man's self respect it is a mature awareness to REALITY. The cheating and infidelity that go on the most of the world attest to this. Period. bravo Mrs. Palatnick.

(79) y, June 22, 2011 8:53 PM

shwartzeneger

Arnold agrees

(78) Anonymous, October 28, 2010 12:26 AM

Beware Au Pair!

When I was a hassled, over-tired young mother suffering from post-natal depression, we employed a young au pair girl - Swedish, pretty & blonde. Wow! Was I a chump! No, my husband didn't go off with her, but that's because I sent her home as soon as she made one mistake. Was it unkind of me? I don't think so. My marriage & family came before ANYTHING. Since then my home helps have been delightful....and homely! Let me add that we've just celebrated our Golden Wedding Anniversary.

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