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Nitroglycerine
Lori Almost Live

Nitroglycerine

Some relationships are inherently volatile.

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Published: July 10, 2010


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Visitor Comments: 15

(15) Helen Ferrieux, October 30, 2010 8:53 PM

Nytro in-laws!

Since I was a teenager I'd always promised myself that if one day I had sons, I'd welcome their girlfriends/wives with open arms. There's an old Jewish saying: a perfect mother-in-law keeps her purse open and her mouth shut. The second part is the more important. and the more difficult! Do you want your darling son to be happy? Then love his wife as much as you love him. Don't be jealous of her - it's a completely different relationship. And don't forget: she's the one who, when you're an old, incontinent crone, will decide whether to have you live with them, or bung you into an old folks' home ! ps My daughters-in-law tell people that I'm their best friend...

(14) Anonymous, July 14, 2010 11:45 PM

Thank you!

This article was like a sigh of relief. My sister-in-law has tested every patience button I have - she is not nice to me - and I've finally realized that it will never be the sisterly relationship I thought I would have in my married life. I found that lowering my expectations and yes, per this article, realizing that it's the "nature" of the relationship helps take the disappointment and stress out of the situation.

(13) D.K.Milgrim-Heath, July 14, 2010 11:09 PM

Nitroglycerine Destroying In-Laws Destroy At Any Time

Nitroglycerine Destroying In-laws Destroy Any Time By D. K. Milgrim-Heath©2010 Nitroglycerine destroying in-laws destroy at any time- They think you're totally worthless less than a dime. Two horrible, jealous nitroglycerine mothers-in-laws- Being power control freaks having so many flaws. Always a good daughter-in-law on an even keel- My in-laws exploded with me they were crazy for real. One being an alcoholic-drug addict you see- The other power controlled others emotionally. My ex's being scared of them they weren't strong- Bowing to their mommies always so scared along. I never bow to anyone that you'll might you know- God's the only one I bow down to so down I go. Now being much older I've strongly this advice- Think about future nitroglycerine problems twice! God helped me along heavily comforting me- Towards leaving my troubled marriages absolutely. Helping me tenderly always with His loving care- God showed me survival while I was hopeless there. So think twice before/after thoughts being wed- Nitroglycerine in-law problems make marital troubles ahead.

(12) Anonymous, July 14, 2010 4:45 AM

My sister in law is my best friend. It took several years for this to happen because I am so close to my brother that initially i was jealous. But over the years we are really best buds and I'm very grateful for that. The kicker is we share our first names. Thank for the reminder.

(11) tobywil, July 13, 2010 8:35 PM

great article, rarely do I hear any complaints about fathers-in-law

Your advice also applies to mother-in-laws, I have been told by a number of friends who are ,- they have great relationships with their daughters and daughters -in- law by my keeping their lips zipped up. Sealed. I had a great mother-in-law and loved her. My motto as a mother and mother in law -if I don't have anything nice to say, I keep my mouth shut. It usually works for me. My sister often says unsolicited advice is not welcome. She's right.

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