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Affording Children
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Affording Children

What role does money play in the decision to have children?

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Published: July 3, 2010


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Visitor Comments: 57

(57) Anonymous, January 16, 2011 3:07 PM

Don't want to work so much... and have kids in daycare

I did not consider money when I had my first 2 children, and then the reality of having to go back to work (so our electricity would not be turned off) left me heartbroken at having to leave my babies. Staying home was not a possiblity. I really want to have more children, and not getting any younger, but my husband is still in school.... I do not want to have my children in daycare.... I'd rather wait to be in a better position.... after having already going through this not worrying about the money, I learned my lesson...unfortunately

(56) Liat k., July 26, 2010 1:03 AM

Whats more important?

well i think yes its both-in away when people are doing good finacialy then that kid could have more things(candy, toys...)than one who isnt doing so well. Now thats good in away but it also has things that arent so good. the good is that they could always feel happy and spent money a bit more freely. the bad is that that child may not ever know how to do things until they have a home on their own. for example chores like cleaning, cooking..those are the ones who more or less( most likly) are neaded at home than others who dont know how to do anything could be the ones who are sitting by a computer, or DS.. however even if someone is doing fine economicaly, and they do have for example a cleaning lady at home everyday-they will more likly not learn as much, and have less experimence-agree? i think that every child thats brought into this world is a big bracha-its not just any other baby but its a nishama! and we have no idea how this 1 baby could change the world into a tottaly different world! like bringing more people on the derech, becoming a rav-or maby iots not this child but the one that will come out of him!?

(55) Anonymous, July 13, 2010 2:49 PM

Washington welfare mom

Let's recollect back a few years to an unmarried woman in Washington, DC, with close to 20 kids snapped at a Congressman, "When are you gonna get me more housing?" to which he replied, "When are you gonna quit having babies?" Then, she said she was going to have as many babies as God would give her. That wasn't a Rabbi Salomon happy, healthy, financially stable family. That was a disgrace to the world. If you can't even support yourself and insist on having litters and litters of kids, then you're acting highly irresponsible. Atlas is shrugging.

(54) OM, July 10, 2010 9:27 PM

It's hard to say

The impact money has on family size is complex. Right now my husband and I feel that we're not quite ready for another child yet because we have our hands full taking care of our existing children (three of them, the youngest is 8 months old). So our decision would appear to be based on our emotional state (overwhelmed) and not our financial state. But maybe if we had more money, we wouldn't be overwhelmed. Maybe if I didn't have to work - if I could relax in the evenings instead of starting my job, if my husband didn't have to help out so much with cleaning and other chores - things would be easier. Maybe if we could afford things like instant food and cleaning help, we'd be ready for another child already. So is our decision emotional, or financial? I think it's sort of both. I don't think we're so unique. I think there are many couples who would feel they could raise a large family if they had infinite resources, if they never had to clean, cook, go out to work, or worry over finances and could simply be with their children (except when a babysitter would take over so they could get enough sleep). And few couples who would feel they could raise a large family with no cleaning help, no premade food, a tiny house, a minimum 45-hour work week, no babysitter to help out if a parent is sick or exhausted or recovering from birth... etc.... and constantly needing to say "no" to their children or worry about how to pay the grocery bill. Money is almost always a factor, even if not directly.

(53) Anonymous, July 10, 2010 6:54 PM

Yoiu have to be able to feed the kid.

Finances are an issue, or at least with me. After I paid my rent, utilities and other expenses, there wasn't enough left over for food. I managed to subside on potatoes or noodles, but I wouldn't want to subject a child to such hunger. It's not fair.

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