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Can Men & Women Just Be Friends?
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Can Men & Women Just Be Friends?

Sometimes a little formality is a good thing.

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Visitor Comments: 78

(50) Anonymous, December 19, 2015 2:20 AM

yes but with DISTANCE!

I believe much of my life I have had male friends. There have been 3 that I remained friends with since I was a Teen. One reason we remained friends was our mutual admiration for one another. Two were very powerful Political men. No, I wasn't "after" them as a romantic partner. We truly liked one another. I assisted them when I could but never took credit for it. At least one of them I played pranks on. I did that every time I went there or I returned to do it when he was in meetings. He actually grabbed me one day and threw me out! He told his Secretary to call him when I returned. Secretly, my antics made him laugh. Decades went by and after 6 marriages, he finally admitted that I was the one he should have married. He made sense. I never realized it. No we didn't marry nor become intimate. He died shortly after. Within the past 5 years an acquaintance who I saw almost daily expressed a desire to have a relationship. We never exchanged phone numbers. I was adamantly opposed because we weren't friends. When he realized I had no interest he stomped off like an angry little girl. I made the right choice. :-)

(49) Anonymous, August 22, 2012 7:19 PM

Depends on the situation

I am a male, and a do have (a few) female friends with whom I wouldn't even think of doing anything. Even if they did ask for it, I would never accept, and I'm pretty sure it goes both ways. Friendship can be possible if neither has feelings for the other, and there is no attraction as well.

jill, August 29, 2012 11:01 AM

i have had many male friends and after doing something with about 2 of them it ruined our friendship now i have learnt my lesson all male friends i jut keep them AS friends and give no signals to them cause friends are hard to find

(48) Anonymous, June 5, 2012 8:06 AM

Underlying Point

The underlying point is that women are a lot more in denial about this then the men are. In turn, they look down upon their male counterparts as though they "cant control themselves" all along knowing what the male wants and just playing, teasing and dragging them along. Just because the women have an easier time handling or even enjoying a platonic relationship, it does not make them better or kinder. they r just playing, and perhaps pyromaniacs (enjoy playing with fire) as well.

(47) Anonymous, May 16, 2012 6:50 PM

Comment 46 Rivka is so right

My community does not take this seriously. I am having this problem with my husband and it is devastating. It has caused so much friction and between him and the women that are not so happy about me trying to put my foot down a get may be forced on me. It is a topic that should be addressed To the community on a regular basis by respected authority. However, will they listen?

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