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Facebook Envy
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Facebook Envy

Keeping up with the Joneses in today’s oversharing world.

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Published: July 20, 2013


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Visitor Comments: 15

(14) Chaya, February 8, 2014 7:21 AM

YES! So true!

Lori- yes this is so true! They did studies and found that people feel extremely depressed from going onto facebook. As a single woman, it is tortue to log onto facebook and see the pictures of other women getting married and having kids, and would make me feel envious of their lives and worse about my situation.. so much so, that I got off of facebook altogether. I feel so much better now. Facebook in my opinion is just a way to brag about oneself in a very public forum. I personally think it does way more harm than good!

(13) Windy, July 28, 2013 2:13 AM

Excuse me? If someone is used to a simple life - don't move them to a wealthier neighbourhood and vice versa.That is a very snobby comment.Everyone should see how other people live.I think it teaches wealthier people to be grateful and not to take things for granted and it teaches less wealthier people that there is a way out of poverty.Sometimes wanting what someone else has is a good thing.It can be motivation to work harder to acquire what it is you want.

I'm sorry but learning not to be envious is taught from home.I do not want to brag, but I do not posess a jealous bone.I'm always happy for people who acquire or achieve things that mean something to them.I've never been envious of looks or smarts.

The only time I was "jealous" was when my older sister reached out and formed a sisterly bond with a neighbourhood girl my age.The reason is I adored my older sister but she always told me to get lost basically.I guess my jealousy was more of a heartache - but I was envious of their relationship.That was what my sister was hoping I'd be.lol

(12) Rachel, July 26, 2013 1:40 AM

"Would you jump into her grave as fast"

That's what my mother, of blessed memory, used to ask us when, as children, we talked about wanting something that belonged to someone else. So in that regard, I like this message.

However, I disagree about not taking one's wife to a different sort of environment. Change always requires some adjustment, but that doesn't necessarily mean that one shouldn't move on -- especially to something better -- simply because it may be out of one's comfort zone. A mature person learns to hold onto his fundamental values while changing circumstances may bring about a change in lifestyle.
I frankly don't understand the point of Facebook. I accomplish the same sharing via email -- and it's likely to be much more tailored to specific friends and family than posting it on Facebook for all one's so-called "friends" to see. I'll share family pix with close friends and family. I'll share developments in the law with colleagues. I'll share interesting ideas from Torah with like-minded friends and acquaintances. I have a great social life, but it doesn't run into the hundreds -- and it's my theory that if you have 500 friends, you should ask yourself whether you really have any friends at all!

(11) Anonymous, July 25, 2013 9:26 PM

you are right on about facebook

I have no facebook because there is too much information that gets out there about your personal life. it has always been my opinion that facebook is dangerous

(10) ross, July 25, 2013 5:57 PM

Face-what?!

There's a very large chunk of the population who can fill in this sentence: "I have deleted/ want to delete my facebook account because..." Lets see: ...it's addicting, ...I waste so much time, ...people/family demand me to use it for whatever, ...I feel uncomfortable seeing whatever, etc.etc.

I've NEVER touched facebook. I'm not 92, I'm 45. My cell phone is used for emergencies and doesn't even have a camera. (I've gotten kind, understanding looks as opposed to strange comments because of this).

My next avodah is to stop listening to the news. I dream one day about unplugging the internet forever.

('But Ross! There are so many good things about...!"

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