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Getting Good Grades
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Getting Good Grades

Dealing with pressure in school.

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Published: February 12, 2011


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Visitor Comments: 16

(16) Bobby 5000, February 19, 2011 5:51 AM

Two goals

You have to try to do two contradictory things in life. First, you want to work hard to achieve an objective such as good grades. But if you do not achieve it, you do not want to get depressed or make the failure something that characterizes you. Instead, you want to remain happy and confident and simply try to improve. On TV and elsewhere, you see coaches yelling at their players when they lose. In fact, some of the best coaches realize that their task is to keep confidence and enthusiam high. Vince Lombardi, known as one the toughest and most demanding coaches, could sometimes be surprisingly easy on his team when they lost. John Wooden whose basketball team won a record 11 national championships in 13 years, didn't talk about winning. He just wanted his players to work at hard as possible but not get nervous about the final result.

(15) Chaya, February 17, 2011 1:40 AM

I wish

I'm a senior in high school and I wish I could agree with this! It would be lovely if the only grades that counted were midos, but the stress on good grades is not only peer-pressure or personality. Sometimes it has to do with making the qualifications for a scholarship, and sometimes it has to do with being accepted to a certain college or seminary, which eventually will lead to passing the college exams in order to be able to support your family with a nice salary. It would be so nice and ideal if midos were the only thing that counted, but the pressures of present and future finances are important too.

(14) devorah, February 16, 2011 3:05 PM

while it true that noone marries someone based on their grade, people (in some circles) do marry based on what seminary/ yeshiva a person went to. so if your say a 16-17 year old kid and you want to get into a certain school because yoy know that when your in shidduchim people are going to judge you based on which school you went to then you will do everthing in your power to make sure that happens. at that age you're not mature enough to relise that you want to be judged by your middos and character and not be deemed a good person because you went to such and such school.

(13) Anonymous, February 15, 2011 11:25 PM

Grades do count...

Lori, Of course middos and effort are the most important, but if you want to get into medical, dental or law school...and yes, a good yeshiva or seminary, grades count...

(12) Guy, February 15, 2011 11:22 PM

Ah, too true!!

I got good grades in HS, try NOT to with a stern Jewish mother, and both parents were Doctors! 5 kids, 4 very professional, me, well, all I really wanted was to be a great nurse, nothing more, nothing less. Killed my mother, as she reminded time and again.... But the connection to our stories, in nursing school, I worked my fanny off, working late on the books, extra labs, volunteering at every level I could, only to find out that it was a simple PASS/FAIL, oh boy..... I had nothing less than a B my entire life, even with a broken arm and PE was less than perfect, still walked away with a B, bit now I am faced with a basic FAIL/PASS, I was so upset, could not believe it.... Truth, who cares! i worked hard, perhaps too hard, but now, I am the Charge Nurse for a very large hospital group, making a wonderful living, it all paid off, but, could have been/done less.... Thanks Lori, as always, love your stories!

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