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Interfaith Marriages
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Interfaith Marriages

Surprising findings from a new study.

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Published: April 27, 2013


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Visitor Comments: 121

(78) Leila, August 30, 2013 1:32 AM

It seems that many of the marriages discussed failed due to a lack of planning and discussion. I am Jewish and my husband was raised Catholic, but has many issues with the Catholic church and is now agnostic. We discussed very early on in our relationship (long before we were married) what our religions meant to us. I made it perfectly clear that I wanted our children to be raised Jewish and he was fine with that. We both agreed that it doesn't make sense to raise them with more than one religion and that you can't let them choose when they are older if you never teach them anything about religion when they're young. We have not been married that long, but I think that because we talked things through earlier on our marriage will remain strong.

(77) Rachel, June 30, 2013 7:29 PM

Our story

I was raised as a gentile in a home where respect for the religion of others was taught.

I began dating a Jewish man who had been divorced. His first marriage had been to a Jewish woman. My parents wanted me to be happy and did not judge my future husband for being "anything" other than himself.

He had been raised Orthodox and I Methodist.

We dated seven years and then were married in a Reform ceremony.

One of the reasons chose our rabbi because he said that marriages are made in heaven....not just here on earth. We decided not to be married by another rabbi who asked me "How can you believe in a religion that starts out with a murder". My answer to this was "My religion starts out in the same place as yours"....."In the beginning G-d created"....this is long before I converted.

His father, of blessed memory, blessed us by attending our wedding. After my conversion, about ten years later, he honored me by asking me to sit next to him one Passover and read from the Haggadah. He leaned over and said "Thank you for bringing my son home to me".

My husband would say prayers and I would ask him "What are you saying?" He did not know. He had been taught to read the Hebrew letters and only knew how to pronounce the words.He was not taught what the translation was. We went to a Reform Temple together, learned what the prayers said.

Years passed, I was drawn more and more to the light of Torah, I converted to Judasim nearly 30 years ago.

We are still together. Not just together for the sake of being together but still happy and choosing to be with each other.

Perhaps my Jewish soul was placed in a non Jewish family so that I would appreciate even more the beauty and wisdom in Judaism.

During this month of Tammuz let's put more light and more positive mitzvot out there. Not only marriages need it....people do.





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(76) Anonymous, May 10, 2013 10:11 PM

Good luck

My best wishes on finding your b'shert. A very good friend of mine, observant, talked to Reb Zalman Schacter. He blessed her and told her not to worry her soul mate would find her. He saw her across the room within a year or two. They have been very happy. It's been about 20 years now.

(75) Frank, May 10, 2013 7:46 PM

Bbiased opinion by the rabbi

Correlation does not imply causation. I can play that game too: It's interesting that Jews have the highest divorce rate among affiliated faith groups in the US (30%, Barna 1999). The lowest divorce rate is among atheists at 21%. Perhaps that means Judaism is a risk-factor for divorce and Jews and should leave the religion in order to increase their odds of happy marriage? That would follow your logic in the video regarding choosing partners based on statistics.

Another interesting statistic: in Israel, where intermarriage is far more rare, the overall divorce rate for Jews is around 35% (Chief Rabbinate Study, 2013) an increased 5% over last year.

(74) Anonymous, May 7, 2013 2:24 PM

Jewish is more than a faith

I married a pretty outgoing girl when I was 23. She was gentile, I a Jew. As a child I rarely went to services and did not come from a Kosher home so I didn't give religion much thought. We lived in a community where in a high school of a thousand there were three Jewish girls I would consider. So dating non Jews was inevitable.
But there is an undeniable cultural difference. Each year of marriage it became more apparent. I surprised myself when it bothered me that my wife took the kids to Church. Next she complained that she was the only one in church without her husband.
In discussions about business or finance my wife would say that "you people think that way" or "well, business comes natural to you people".
So after watching the video I can only say, of course.

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