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Is It Never Too Late?

Is It Never Too Late?

What would YOU do in this situation?


December 23, 2006

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(13) Anonymous, April 2, 2007 12:09 PM

The Doctor was dead on!!!

I think that when you make an appointment, you make a inner admission that you respect this person's time and that it is precious. If you are late without calling, and for most of us in the civilized world it is acceptable to have a window of fifteen minutes, you are really saying that your time is more important that the doctor's time (in this case) and you don't respect this doctor or his work. You may be stuck in a subway where you can't use your cell phone. Even so, thirty five minutes is a strain on anyone's time and you should be happy to be seen at all. Things happen...I see as a teacher and a youth group advisor, the disrespect shown for other's time. If you have a 5:00 appointment, leave yourself enough travel time. It shows respect for the other person and respect for yourself. I also shows you were raised by your parents correctly.
Chag Sameach,

(12) mark, January 18, 2007 6:47 AM

that depends...

5.30 could've said, 'Hey, you're thrombosis is more urgent than my in-growing toenail, you go in first'. That would've shown 'love to neighbour'. Perhaps 5pm would've been so stricken in his conscience that he would've apologized profusely and let 5.30 go in - and maybe next time who knows he might just show up when he's supposed to. 'Do to others as you would have them do to you'.


(11) Margarita, January 1, 2007 5:02 AM

Ok I see the point

Ok, I see the point. But there is another question: how come my time is nothing. I still would like to come to the doctor's (or why go that far: loan lender, accountant or any other) appointment as usual about 10 min before, but at least come in at the time of my appointment. It's funny how the story is one sided, may be if there was a chance to get in on time, we as clients (patients) would be on time too.
By the way I do think it's rude to be 35 min late (5 min might be the difference in watch or something, that's the reason why I'm usually 10 min early), not even give a call to the doctor's office (surgery).

(10) elaine, December 29, 2006 6:53 PM

Another thought......about lateness

The Doctor might have taken the 5:30 appointment first. Perhaps the staff could ask the 5:00 man "Would you like to reschedule or would you like us to work you in to see the Dr. within the next hour?" Although unfortunately, this offer would shorten the Dr.s time with other patients and inconvenience the staff.
The first man's lack of concern for the appointment, and for the scheduling of the other patients seems a lack of respect. The second man, well, 5 minutes is a bit different.
5 minutes is still late, but forgivable. 10 minutes late is questionable. 35 minutes is not just late....35 minutes is rude.
I don't exactly know the right thing to do. If he was going to the theater and was 35 min. late, no ones time is taken up. Yet when there is an appointed time, it inconveniences everyone. Well, that is what I think at this moment.
Do you have another way Rabbi?

(9) Anonymous, December 28, 2006 6:51 PM


That is for sure an interesting dilemma! I think that it's not so clear-cut that the 5:00 man was in the wrong. Perhaps he was stuck in traffic and didn't have a cell phone to call the office; perhaps he was in a very important meeting and couldn't excuse himself; perhaps he SHOULD have called in advance but now has a very important event to attend at 6:00. I think that the doctor should have asked both men if either would mind waiting, and if neither agreed to, made the decision himself to go in order of appointments - first scheduled, first taken.

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