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Jewish Mothers

It’s time to break the stereotype.

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Published: November 3, 2013


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Visitor Comments: 11

(10) Anonymous, November 7, 2013 8:46 AM

giving brachot on your birthday

some of my kids call me, some do not on my birthday. I call them, if they do not call me, and I give all of them brachot. It is a mitzvah to give on one's birthday, and I love giving, and if I have nothing else to give, I always have brachot that I can and do give.

(9) SusanE, November 6, 2013 11:21 PM

Stereotype??

Lori, you were the exact Jewish Martyred Mother by making that phone call. You called a child in another country in the middle of the night to remind them they didn't call you and it was your birthday? Your child wasn't feeling guilty UNTIL you called cause they didn't remember. OMG how much more Jewish Mother could that be? The stereotype lives on. Brighton Beach Memoirs 1986.

(8) Rachel, November 5, 2013 10:58 PM

Works great on spouses, too!

My husband hates "expected" giving like parties and birthday presents. So the year I turned 30, I asked if I could organize my own party, to which he eagerly agreed. I've been doing it ever since, and it's been fine. I get what I want (a party with my friends), he gets what he wants (no hassle of having try to organize something that he's not comfortable doing) and we're both happy. And married 30-plus years. He's the greatest at doing whatever really needs to be done; I see no point in complaining about the optional things that he doesn't like.

(7) Dina, November 5, 2013 8:58 PM

never knew that guilt was Jewish

Always thought that the stereotype of the Yiddisha Mamma was the warm, loving, really devoted mother. Who had the true power of giving, a real ba'alas chesed. I don't think that's a martyr, but someone who can give and give and give. Like so many great women in our history, or like the Chafetz Chiam. Read Rav Dessler's essay on" -Giving and Taking".

(6) Yehudit, November 5, 2013 7:32 PM

I agree with mort, number one

I agree with you mort, with your conclusions but not your resulting actions. It's tempting to use threats but of course it's not correct, no matter how satisfying! We have the same situation in our family, a brother who doesn't visit his desperately ill father in hospital nor take care of his mother who stays in a hotel near the hospital instead of being hosted in his home. Terrible. But still, no threats.

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