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Learning to Cope
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Learning to Cope

One vital ingredient in the psychotherapeutic process: Just talk.

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Published: July 13, 2013


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Visitor Comments: 15

(11) Anonymous, February 2, 2014 2:48 PM

I HAVE BEEN SPEAKING FOR THE LAST THREE YEARS

I HAVE BEEN GOING TO A THERAPIST FOR THE LAST THREE YEARS, I HAVE BEEN SPEAKING AND YET THE PROBLOM IS ONLY GETTING WORSE, NOT BETTER. HINT: THINK HOSPITAL. AS IN PYSCHIATRIC.

(10) SusanE, August 1, 2013 11:20 PM

You are right. People long for someone to listen.

Rabbi, For whatever reason people talk to me. Strangers in stores, restaurants, at gatherings. When my kids were teenagers they used to say "Mom! why do people come up and tell you stuff? I really didn't know then. The stories are of an achievement or a happy time or of a sadness, or of an unexpected event in their lives. They just needed to tell it. And I was nearby. - - - - - - - I am a mouthy person and many times a know-it-all as you know from my spouting off here on Aish. But, it's different when a stranger walks over to me and begins talking.... I listen. I can feel what they are feeling. Rabbi, there are so many of us who are desperately lonely. We have family and we have friends, but we don't have any one who listens to us. Every living being needs a safe place. After 40 years of these experiences I think that is why they share their stories. I must look safe. Thank you for this article on coping and and the need to talk.

(9) Chaim, July 23, 2013 1:55 AM

Would love to speak but my chavrusa doesn't show up

Maybe my "speeches" are too boring? Perhaps Dr. Salomon can suggest a "speech coach" to improve my oratory skills?Anyway, it's something to think about....and speak about...if allowed.
Love this Aish feature!

(8) Mati, July 19, 2013 1:57 AM

There is nobody for me to speak to

and it wouldn't help anyway. There are some things you cannot change....and the wisdom to know the difference

(7) Richard Price, July 18, 2013 10:30 PM

Yes but..

We do need others who are willing to listen, but thye must be genuine and ideally have gone through some psychotherapy themselves, there is nothing worse than a listener who is trying to be a counsellor and not coming from a genuine space, my last pyscho analyst was brilliant and I have been priviledged to undergo and be part of intense group work and one to one for over 10 years , therapy when it is working right and the client want to make progress is a real God send , God Bless you Rabbi

PS it was my raison detre but sadly due financial problems loss of work and complex dental issues have been forced to abandon it .

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