Start Over

Sometimes the best way to build is to shut it down.

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(13) Maria Dodoc, August 24, 2013 12:01 PM

Thanks.

Thank You!

(12) Mati, August 9, 2013 11:19 AM

An American starting over in Israel...

...was one of the greatest things I have done in my life.

(11) SusanE, August 9, 2013 6:18 AM

Good Ideas Rabbi.

Had a bad day? Go to bed. Everything resets while you sleep and tomorrow will be better.

~ ~ ~ Painting a room and you decide you hate the color. Stop. Buy another gallon and start over with another color. Why live with something when $20 will make it better. ~ ~ The kids are gone, your marriage isn't giving either of you joy and you aren't thriving as a couple. Talk it out and start over. Together or apart it's up to you. ~ ~ ~ I've started over in a major way three times.. (life changing) The latest thing, Retirement, was a stupid decision, so starting over again after 6 years. Will run the business a little differently because I'm 23 years older than when I opened my shop. Starting over recharges you and you work better (like that gas grille) Thanks for the video.

(10) Sanford (Sandy) Goodman, August 9, 2013 4:12 AM

I have shut down and started over successfully many times

Dear Rabbi Solomon:

Your video about starting over came at a very apropos time. Just before listing to your video I had to shut down and restart my computer which had indulged in one of its rare moments—misbehaving!

Getting more serious, 12 years ago my first wife passed away after a brief but unexpected illness. At first I went through the normal grieving process—denial, anger, depression, and finally acceptance.

Then after a period of time I put my mourning behind me and envisioned myself getting remarried. Several months later, I met Chana. Exactly 1 year after our first date, Chana & I got married and in 11 weeks we will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary. Boruch Hashem, my marriage to her is even better than my first marriage.

We all have the ability to put the past behind us and move forward.

Sandy Goodman, Dallas Texas

(9) Anonymous, August 9, 2013 1:08 AM

shut it down to start over.

My husband and I have been preparing 2 years to go to Israel when all of a sudden I began planning on relocating here in america and I was stressed totally out. I heard your message and I shut it down and guess what we are back on tract to relocate in Israel not Florida.

(8) Brian A.Donnelly, August 9, 2013 12:00 AM

Our attitude determines our altitude.

Thank you for such an uplifting message. As a devout Christian and supporter of Israel I can identify with this exhortation when, at age 33, I invited G-d into my life and started over with my walk with HaShem. I have been blessed greatly during these past 36 years and each day I am grateful that I was given the choice to "start over".

(7) Anonymous, August 8, 2013 6:54 PM

Thank you ...

... very much! L'Shana tovah! :)

(6) Ann Canada, August 7, 2013 7:59 PM

A beautiful message, dear Rabbi. Thank you.

Shlomit, August 9, 2013 2:59 AM

Wooww!!!

Thank you so much!! I felt as if you are giving me this important message personally! This message really gave me a boost in starting over! Please send more messages!

(5) Anonymous, August 7, 2013 6:51 PM

Excellent, timely video

Thank you for the very inspiring video. This is the perfect time to take stock, refresh, and renew

(4) Anonymous, August 7, 2013 6:12 PM

Todah Raba Rabbi! This message brought a different perspective to my view on challenges. I have had a year that has been full of challenges and fell in the self pity. I just thought I would just sit in stand by mode and it will be ok. I did the Peter walked on water and started to drown because I lost sight of things. This is dangerous because you start to die spiritually and its a lonely and desperate place.This message reminded me that I have to swallow the pride and start over. Thanks for your message as this month of Elul is powerful.

(3) Anonymous, August 7, 2013 4:53 PM

So true!

I really needed to hear this today as I pack up my home to leave my relationship. Thank you for your wise and uplifting words.

(2) Joe, August 7, 2013 3:02 PM

One of your best ever

I have seen many of your videos and I must say that this is probably the most important one for people to see. Great mashal, great lesson. Vital for life.

Judith, August 8, 2013 6:14 PM

I agree! Superb advice.

Dear Rabbi Yaakov Salomon, It was interesting and coincidental to hear this because some art/computer work that I had set aside and re-visited a few weeks ago has now been easier for me. Sometimes you have to shut it down, set it aside and re-visit it and it works again! I enjoyed hearing it from you, Rabbi. Thank you.

(1) Anonymous, August 5, 2013 10:03 PM

Rabbi--Your words ring so true that I am moved to tears! It has taken me a long time (too long in fact), but I have finally learned to "shut it down" and start over again when something is not working. My father, z"l tried to teach me this lesson decades ago, bit I refused to listen to him. I think when we take the time to walk away from the problem, we gain a new perspective. Thank you very much for reminding us of this important message as we approach Elul.

 

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