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The Most Essential Tool in Marriage

The Most Essential Tool in Marriage

Thanks for the newlywed tips, but here’s one more. And I think it’s critical.


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Published: January 11, 2014


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Visitor Comments: 11

(11) Anonymous, January 20, 2014 4:19 PM

Deep listening

Listening is essential....all of the comments given(attention, respect, approval of an individual's self-worth, etc) are very good supporting tools to listening, even on the surface level as well as a level slightly beneath what words are said. Listening with the Presence of NOW....that means surrendering the past, surrendering desired outcomes.. focusing on the soul-level and listening to the human needs ...It opens the heart to more compassion; and with deep listening, a flow of listening happens ...rather than a static "technique" of “me” to “me” or even a "trying to get this active listening thing right"....Deep listening is a natural communing.
It seems to need to be re-taught...but even an intention of deep listening seems to bring the joyous soul to the forefront and those times of listening with that intention, build up strength, courage and devotion of the "We" ...any opportunity to practice listening is an opportunity for genuine love, tenderness and devotion. It becomes an experience of shared creativity in innate connection. We "practice" listening to strengthen the living ---fully living---our shared life. Deep listening is as natural as breathing.

(10) MichaeL Bear, January 17, 2014 9:54 PM

The Most Important Marriage Tip

Rabbi
Mazel Tov on the wedding!
Really listening, not just hearing, is the key to a long and happy marriage and not just with newly-weds. As we are in a marriage longer we sometimes don't really hear what are spouses are saying AND what is their feelings behind what they said. Sometimes the fact that you are REALLY paying attention to them can make the difference between a happy marriage and divorce. Shabbat Shalom.

(9) Avi Sachs, January 16, 2014 11:14 PM

Same topic?

Sorry i don't remember if you had a video last week but, want to wish you a hearty Mazel Tov to and you family on your son's wedding!!!

(8) Anonymous, January 16, 2014 10:32 PM

Listening

This is something that I have been working on in myself. I am not a good listener, especially with my spouse. I am trying to pay attention when he speaks and not think about all the "stuff" I want to get done. When I do take the time to really listen, I find it so interesting and will sometimes comment and then it opens up a wonderful discussion. Thank you.

(7) Maureen of the Hero Family, January 16, 2014 5:38 PM

There is no one to listen to me

MAZAL TOV ON THE WEDDING. I listen to EVERYTHING U SAY AND SING. Of course common sense BUT not everyone has the wherewithall to listen. Wish u would do a singing video.?

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