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The #1 Reason for Marriage Problems
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The #1 Reason for Marriage Problems

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Published: May 20, 2012

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Visitor Comments: 93

(79) Josh S, October 30, 2014 4:29 PM

Realizing Our Problems

I think one of the main problems with marriage is that people don't want to admit they have problems. They want to believe they're perfect in every way like Marry Poppins. Living in a fantasy world stops you from seeing what's right under your nose. Some things may be obvious and others more challenging. Sometimes we have to take risk in life to improve ourselves. We may not want to or like to, but what do we have to lose. It may be hard to admit the truth about people's problems to a spouse or anyone. If you trust a person, you could assume they'll understand, but not always. We can't be hush hush around people we know and love. No matter how hard it is, we must never give in. Life at times can be stressful. There are somethings that are difficult and others a cinch. It really depends on the person. We need to help ourselves, if we have things on our minds. Everyone has problems. Not neccessarily that they're considered dumb. I'm saying that everyone has to face certain challenges in life. We'll all different, each and every one of us. We may have simularities, but no one is 100% identical. Holding yourself back, just creates more stress on youself. Try not to go astray from reality. I hope that this message helps people. This is just my opinion. It's alright if you disagree. Happy to share my opinions.

(78) Lisa, October 28, 2014 10:21 AM

Happy Wife ==== Happy Life

This little phrase goes a long way!!

(77) Anonymous, August 17, 2012 4:00 AM

Divorce and children

I cannot agree enough with Sarah K. I am a divorced woman and the father of my children gave them no boarders of behaviour. I was brought up with discipline and boarders. He ridiculed my boarders in front of the kids. When we divorced the kids choose him and I am left a victim of "Parental Alienation Syndrome" unheard of in Israel. I am enstranged from my children. I had to move overseas I was so emotionally battered and needed a break. But now I have to put humpty dumpty family back together again if I want any form of Nachas.

(76) LSC, June 24, 2012 6:48 AM

The central fallacy here is that more divorces = more failed marriages. When marriages failed before, when people were suffering and unhappy, divorce was often not a viable solution. Even if legally possible (and often it was not) there was no realistic way to maintain a livelihood and place in society after a divorce - especially for women. I have never been convinced that the rise in divorces actually reflects a rise in unhappy marriages, any more than the rise in reported rapes, child abuse cases and other domestic problems really reflect that there is more of it going on - it is just not hidden and quietly suffered any more.

(75) Anonymous, June 15, 2012 5:13 PM

Rabbi Salomon is RIGHT ON TARGET!

I wonder how many of you who are so free to criticize Rabbi Salomon have ever gone through divorce?? My selfish wife left me after 17 years of marriage (stealing everything in the process). Rabbi Salomon hit the nail right on the head--people are selfish, unwilling to change, unwilling to accept any blame; they just throw everything away without thinking. VERY FEW people are truly REAL abusers, mentally ill, etc. The other spouse is simply UNWILLING to accommodate him- or herself--OK, let's be honest, usually "herself"--to the needs and idiosyncrasies of the other. But it's all good--B"H I was able to marry a truly wonderful woman and we have children of our own. You can argue with me as much as you want--BUT I'VE BEEN THERE!!

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