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Tips for the Newlyweds
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Tips for the Newlyweds

My son just got married. Now what?

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Published: January 4, 2014


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Visitor Comments: 48

(48) Jessy, June 8, 2014 6:41 PM

Really listen to each other

We cannot know what is in a persons heart, however we are told in Holy Scriptures " out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. However listen carefully.Sometimes there might even be need for reflection to really hear. Of importance are not just the words but the tone of the voice, the body language and the context in which the words are spoken.

(47) SusanE, January 14, 2014 3:15 AM

Happiness to the Newlyweds!

The advice is so easy and so simple. Never become competitive. You are both now, in the same place. Make sure it's a happy place.

(46) jack A, January 13, 2014 5:38 PM

words can never be retracted " think before you speak"

Always talk positively and with humor.

(45) Anonymous, January 12, 2014 8:36 PM

Advice I gave my beloved children and children-in-law before their marriages.

1) The laws of lashon hara, the guidelines regarding acceptable speech, apply to what we say to and about our spouses. One of the greatest threats to marriages are words. Use them carefully
2) Arguments are virtually never about the stated topic. When conflict arises in your marriage, work to identify and address the real issue.
3) Allow a little amnesia in your marriage. Not general anesthesia or total unawareness--just a little amnesia, for real mess ups. Get over it and move on. Don't hold grudges.
4) Never underestimate the power of simple pleasantness. In the Psalms, we are told that the ways of Torah are pleasant. Spouses and children deserve pleasant home atmospheres. Make a pleasant atmosphere a goal in your home.
5) Much marital conflict results from financial strain. Try to live under your means. Physical exhaustion also contributes to marital stress. Try to be well rested.
6) Never forget that someday you and your spouse will be temporarily separated. Hashem will take one of your souls to the Next World. One of you will be left here to bury the other of you. Conduct yourself throughout your marriage, in such a way as to have a clear conscience when that sad time comes.
7) Pray to the One Who created your spouse, and you, and your marriage, for help in making it meaningful, joyful, and pleasant.

(44) Jong, January 12, 2014 6:21 PM

Keep the end picture in mind

Keep the end picture always in your mind, a happy couple for many years.

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