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(18) Simonne, August 6, 2011 3:49 AM

YOU LIGHT UP MY LIFE

Dear Lori, I love listening to your words of wisdom,you are so right ,we must think before we talk ,we can really hurt ourselves and our loved ones by using bad language.Kol hakavod to you,continue your great work. B'Shalom, Simonne

chris hoh, August 15, 2011 6:01 AM

i think those hollywood moves effects us the most if u were to count those four letters words in amovie u could reach hundred n beside the movies industry have been half a century

(17) Willy, July 30, 2011 1:18 PM

cursing

hello and I hope you are having an great day your talk reminded me of an experience I had many years ago.Someone I had worked with got transfer to another part of the department.About an month later he related to me about how he was telling about some quality problems they were having and the woman said that she didn't like his choice of words that he was using. He told her that he said it nicely. Then he said Willy I don't get it.So I explained it to him. When he pointed out that it didn't seem to bother me, I explain that I'm use to it because I have been around it my whole life but I would preferred that people would use better words. In talking with him I realized that cursing has become common language. People don't realize that it is wrong. In the years that this has happened I have not forgotten this and have tried to point this out from time to time

(16) Astrid, July 28, 2011 5:46 PM

Thank you!

Your message made me stop and think a lot about myself, it was a real blessing, thank you very much:)

(15) Mary Callahan, July 28, 2011 10:04 AM

You were talking about me!

Thank you so very much, Lori. Today is a new me. I will continue to use my limited words carefully. What a blessing you and your timely message was. Mary

(14) Sarah Dinah, July 28, 2011 3:26 AM

You are always an inspiration

Lori, you are always an inspiration! There was a time when I had slipped into the habit of using foul language all the time even though I was raised by parents who never used that language in front of us and I modeled myself after their example. Somehow, at some point in my adulthood, I started associating with people who were free with this type of language, and I felt "free" to use it myself. What I have found now is that when I do use this language, it is because these words are weapons for me. When I choose to use other words, I no longer have that weapon and I must think more about what I want to communicate. Thank you for your excellent message!

(13) Anonymous, July 27, 2011 1:03 AM

Excellent Information

I LOVED this video segment, Lori. Are (written) transcripts available??

(12) Frederica Steller, July 27, 2011 12:31 AM

Our words are very important, and show others what /who we are on the inside.

Very good video! So true, that our words say a lot about us. Unfortunately, too many people don't think about what words are coming out of their mouths. We can either hurt and offend others; or speak blessings into their lives, all with our words.

(11) Anonymous, July 26, 2011 11:35 PM

Thank you so much for this important message that has unfortunately become relevant to so many. I always find it so disturbing that there are people, both young and old alike, that feel the need to use foul language and swear words in order to feel cool and tough and intimidating. Thank you for addressing this.

(10) Marilyn, July 26, 2011 10:38 PM

Todah Rabah for your wisdom

This was timely and insightful in many ways - thank you

(9) John, July 26, 2011 10:02 PM

Holding Back the Tears

Sitting here reflecting on ME. I want to do this, I want to be like this. I dont really know why I curse? I wish more people felt as Lori does. Think how much people would change because of it.

(8) Roy Dekoke, July 26, 2011 8:29 PM

As alwayse Beautiful

Mrs. Lori Palatnik I could listen to you for hours. Roy.

(7) Augusto Chiri, July 26, 2011 7:14 PM

learn by example

Greal Lori, this is something than anybody can do by focusing and addresing the issue rather than a cheap talk,and at the same time you become a better and change person.

(6) Anonymous, July 26, 2011 5:53 PM

very insightful

Very insightful perspective. It put into words the feelings I have had lately about trying to speak in a more loving, positive way. Behaviors can be hard to change, but if we make the effort, eventually, the changes will become part of us.

(5) Anonymous, July 26, 2011 3:42 PM

Lori is an excellent speaker, touching on important topics and delivering a message in a promt and very important way!

Thank you, Lori for a very important and life changing message. Everyone should be studying Chofetz Chaim...there is so much to be learned about speaking positively. Thank you for starting the journey!

(4) Anonymous, July 26, 2011 3:41 PM

That was just beautiful! Thank you Lori

That was just beautiful! Thank you Lori

(3) Mary Ruth, July 26, 2011 3:35 PM

Changing our words

This struck me in a little different way: We only have so many words, so how many of the words I use are a waste of them; like gossip, or hurtful words, words used to argue with my husband or children, words that are not productive or helpful or healing in any way. I will pray to remember this message, Lori, to form what falls out of my mouth will be helpful, healing, loving words, chosen carefully, because I only have so many words left. I want to use them to honor and glorify G-d.

(2) Anonymous, July 26, 2011 2:51 PM

You blew me away.

I too am a victim of that malady. Not just the moral clarity but your terrific personality came through to make me listen to the very end. Starting right now I’m going to change. Yasher Koach

(1) Anonymous, July 24, 2011 2:01 PM

very insightful

thank you Lori for the very insightful look into why people use " bad" language. It made me think about the impact of my words in my life and how I can use them more carefully to make people feel good instead of putting them down-even though I don't use " bad" language, it made me think about the impact of speech in general.

Denis MacEoin, July 26, 2011 3:55 PM

Not just the obvious bad words

I spend a certain amount of time writing pro-Israel comments on online forums and places like YouTube, and I grow more and more sick at heart to read the foul, half-coherent anti-Semitic poison that the posters use for their rants. I write careful responses, but I have the advantage of being a former academic and a professional writer. A good education in language helps us control our speech and writing. But I remain staggered by how badly the younger generation has been taught, to the point where they have no control at all. Knowing nothing of grammar, spelling or syntax lets your words slip out of control. At the very bottom are the ones who make the f... word their standard noun, adjective, and verb, but the anti-Israel ranters are not much better, since they reject clear argument, common sense, and reason too. And, thank you Lori, for the wisdom of our having only so many words to use in a lifetime.

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Mrs. Lori Palatnik

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Lori Palatnik is a writer and Jewish educator who has appeared on television and radio, and is the author of "Friday Night and Beyond: The Shabbat Experience Step-By-Step," "Remember My Soul - What to do in Memory of a Loved One," and co-author of "Gossip: 10 Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul." She is a much sought-after international speaker, having lectured in the U.S., Canada, Mexico, U.K., Central America, South America, South Africa and Israel, including featured talks at Yale, Brown and Penn. She lives in the Washington D.C. area, with her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik. Lori is the Founder of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project, an international initiative that brings over 1,000 women to Israel each year from ten different countries on highly subsidized programs to inspire them with the beauty and wisdom of their heritage. She is the busy mother of five children, ages 24 to 14; and her son, Zev, just finished serving as a sharpshooter in the IDF. Her weekly video blog, "Lori Almost Live" is a popular feature on aish.com, viewed by over 50,000 people each month.

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Watch Your Mouth

How you speak not only affects others, it impacts your soul.

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