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The Infertility Angel

The Infertility Angel

A top doctor in the field of male infertility speaks about professional success, medical ethics, and his Jewish passion.

by Aish.com Staff

Dr. Sherman Silber is a legend in the field of infertility. As a leading international authority on in-vitro fertilization and tubal ligation reversal, clients travel from distant lands to his St. Louis clinic, to seek the benefit of his innovative techniques and compassionate heart.

His resume is staggering. Silber performed the first testicle and ovary transplants in the U.S. He invented the microsurgical vasectomy reversal technique and, with co-workers in Brussels, developed techniques of sperm retrieval and injection (ICSI), and the more recent testicular sperm extraction (TESE) which allows him to serve men with a zero sperm count.

Silber's many TV appearances include Oprah, Nightline, Good Morning America, and the Today Show. He is the author of the best-selling "How to Get Pregnant," and "How to Get Pregnant with the New Technology." He has published more than 200 scientific papers and 50 teaching videos, and hosts the popular website www.infertile.com.

Silber says that he "accidentally" came to specialize in infertility, led by a series of unforeseen circumstances. While we accept his explanation, we are reminded of the Talmudic dictum: "In the place where there is no man, strive to be a man." Dr. Silber never saw a need he didn't try to fill.

Devoted doctor, husband, father, and kids' soccer coach, Dr. Sherman Silber keeps moving and accomplishing. Aish.com tried to keep up with Dr. Silber in his office in St. Louis.


Tell us about your childhood.

I grew up on the south side of Chicago in a bad neighborhood, the kind everybody wants to get out of. There was a lot of arguing and fighting; it was very dysfunctional.

Believe it or not, what got me through it was Hebrew school. I would take a public bus every day to our synagogue. It was a lot of fun, and gave me a positive outlook on life amidst so much negativity.

How did you come to the field of medicine?

I knew I was going to be a doctor because my mother and father told me when I was five years old that it was a good idea. As I got older, I accepted the validity of their viewpoint. You get to help people. You get out of the bad neighborhood. You have financial security. And it's important, exciting work.

To this day, I always imagine my mother looking over my shoulder saying, "Well, Sherman, what's next?!"

And now you're a medical pioneer. What guided you in the direction of fertility work?

To think we chart our own course is a mistake. It's very egotistical. God is definitely directing everybody in the way they're going.

When I graduated medical school, I went into the Public Health Service in lieu of the military, and found myself in Alaska. We had no urologist. So I developed an interest in urology, which led to kidney research on rats. I then went to work in Australia where we were operating on rat arteries that were one-half millimeter in size and invisible to the naked eye.

One night I said to my wife, "I don't see why we couldn't do vasectomy reversals on men the same way I do microsurgery on rats. But I don't think there would be much of a market for that."

Of course, she said I was wrong, and told me to go to the laboratory and practice that right away. This was three years before in-vitro fertilization and nobody knew anything about embryology.

A year and half later, vasectomy reversal was on the front page of the New York Times and I had become very famous.

There must be a lot of complex ethical issues involved in your work.

Yes, but I think the ethical issues that confound a lot of people have been easier for me because I've been able to call on the very top rabbis to get their point of view.

For example, we wanted to innovate a procedure to retrieve sperm from sterile men by cutting into their ducts, but this struck me a possible violation of the Torah law against castration (Leviticus 22:24). So we had a big rabbi come to St. Louis to ask questions about our surgical procedures, and make a videotape which he took back to Jerusalem to discuss with the great rabbis there. The result was we took steps to repair the ducts back to the way they were before.

Each individual case is different, and we use so many complex procedures, that a rabbi needs to be consulted on each case.

Another issue that came up is when we fertilize multiple embryos outside of a woman, and we don't implant all of them: What is the status of the remaining embryos and what can be done with them? This has become an important question recently, in terms of using these embryos for stem cell research. So I've been consulting with the rabbis on this one.

It takes away a lot of the anxiety when you know you've got that depth of perspective behind you. And whenever I present the rabbinical view at hospital board meetings, everyone is quiet because they know it carries the weight of truth.

There are upwards of one million vasectomies performed in America each year. What percentage wants reversals?

About 1-2 percent, which means that every year about 10,000 Americans have a vasectomy reversal. Before I got into this field 25 years ago, there was an occasional success, maybe one percent. With the techniques we use today, 90 percent are successful in restoring fertility, and the remaining 10 percent can rely on sperm retrieval techniques where the wife can become pregnant through I.V.F.

Why do men get reversals? What's the sociology behind this?

I think western society is in many ways self-centered. Men initially get the vasectomy so they (and their wives) can have unencumbered freedom to enjoy a materialistic lifestyle without being hampered by more children. And this often leads to unhappiness. Because the only real happiness is when you're outside of yourself and giving to others. Human beings will shrivel away without meaning in their life. I've found that the people coming to me feel that to a certain extent they've lost the ability to give, and they're looking to tap back into that.

I know people from every walk of life, and the day before I'm going to operate on their testicles they usually tell me everything. And the people who have amassed a lot of wealth and a lot of fame but who haven't had real meaning in life do not feel successful. They're tortured. They can't sleep at night.

How do you define your own success?

That's such an emotionally charged word. I think it involves character. You have to achieve something -- something good, beneficial and valuable to the world -- or you've missed the boat. It could be writing a book that is enjoyed by others, or being a dispenser of wisdom, or devoted to medical care.

"Doing good for others" can get very muddy, because a person needs to know how much of this is looking for applause, kudos, recognition. That aspect of success and accomplishment has a very brief half-life. It's never satisfying.

As I've gotten older, I've struggled to figure out how much of my work is the empty pursuit of recognition, and how much of it is just this innate desire to help and do a good job. Because the true mark of success doesn't require recognition from others. You have to know yourself that you've done as good a job as you can do. I guess the reward of integrity is you get to live with yourself!

Do you consider yourself a spiritual person?

That depends how you define it. I look at spirituality as connecting to the world outside of yourself and keeping your mental eyes wide open to your universe. If every little event in your life, no matter how tiny, has significance, then in order to gain the most from life you have to be functioning at an elevated level of consciousness all the time. For me, that's spirituality and that's connecting with God.

Do you find spiritual elements in your work?

Well, the first command that God gave to human beings is "Be fruitful and multiply." So I'm very lucky in that my infertility work is intrinsically meaningful.

Beyond that, the "pursuit of meaning" is the easiest thing to neglect, because there's always another patient to see or another paper to write. But if you don't take the time to expand and enrich yourself by learning the meaning of it all, you may be missing out on a greater dimension. And in the long run, your other work will suffer.

So I want to get more balance, and it's a feeling that's been growing steadily over the years.

What have you done to achieve this?

I enjoy studying Talmud. Talmud is an amazingly logical process that trains a person to continually question his beliefs. No matter what your profession, the more your eyes are open to all possibilities, the better job you're going to do. And I think the ultimate tool for opening yourself up to the world is by studying Talmud. It forces you to ask the question: "How do you know what you know?"

How does this differ from classical philosophy?

You could study a lot of philosophy -- Plato, Aristotle, Kant, Spinoza, Descartes -- and it's fascinating intellectual stimulation. But it's all tautology, a series of theoretical assumptions, and I've found that most people who study philosophy end up disappointed.

Whereas with Talmud, the whole point is practical application. How do I take this knowledge and translate it into becoming a better father, a better husband, a better human being -- and a better scientist.

Published: October 20, 2001


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Visitor Comments: 9

(9) Yoel, November 26, 2005 12:00 AM

Story of Hasgacha Protis (Divine Providence) and Hope

Hi – We are couple who have undergone and are undergoing infertility treatment. Through G-d's mercy we had one child so far. I wanted to share our story with you.

It was just a little under 2 years ago that our daughter was born. My wife and I are an older couple and had been going through various forms of fertilty treatment. My wife was receiving injections on a daily basis during certain parts of her cycle and there were all types of invasive tests. We moved to a different physician who stopped the injections but was administering other medication. This medication had to be taken specifically at certain days in my wife's cycle. Months kept passing where we'd wait expectantly for good news but then would find out that it was not the ordained time. Some of the medication was to correct a general hormone imbalance that had a generally impact on our chances of getting pregant.

Given that we are an older couple, each month seemed precious. So when some of the medication showed a side effect and my wife had to stop the fertility treatment for a month - other than the medication for her general hormone imbalance - we were very upset. We felt the month was totally wasted. Might as well just write it off.

But somehow an idea reached me. Perhaps this would be the greatest time for G-d to reveal himself. Dafka (specifically), in a month where there was no specific treatment. Dafka (specifically) now he can reveal and show that he is truly the one in charge, the one who decides when and how and by what means. So I started to daven in everyone of the 3 prayers we say each day, saying, "G-d, please may we have good news this month, specifically in this month, for in this month it will be the greatest revelation that you control all."

That was the month my wife became pregnant. 8 months later, after a difficult labor, our daughter was born. She is truly a remarkable little baby.

We are now back receiving fertility treatment. We by all means recognize its importance. For example, my wife's general hormone imbalance was corrected and that was likely a contributing factor to our ability to get pregnant. But it is all simply "histadlus," meaning the effort we must go through, for the Rabbis and our tradition instruct us not to rely on miracles, but instead to take all the normal means at our disposal to accomplish something.

We must never lose fact that G-d controls the results, the how and the when. We are not in control. All we can do is "take the actions, and rely on G-d for the results." I believe fertility treatment and prayer is part of those actions. I gave some charity yesterday as part of those actions.

Writing this letter is part of those actions, for I believe our tradition holds that one of our purposes here on Earth is to recognize G-d's hand whenever we can and allow other's to do so also. I do believe that my wife and I were the recepients of an open revelation of G-d's control -- that specifically he picked the month where we couldn't get the fertility treatment to have my wife be pregnant.

I offer this as measure of hope that we never now how and when G-d will choose the time which is right for us to have the children we very much want, but that such a time can come when you least expect it. We pray to G-d that he choose that the time for our next child will be very very soon. We pray the same for all of the our people who are awaiting children.

Thank you,

An Anonymous Grateful Father


(8) Anonymous, February 1, 2005 12:00 AM

on-line infertility support

For anyone reading this article and personally experiencing infertility, you may want to visit atime.org, "a torah infertility medium of exchange," to gain support and network with others experiencing this very difficult challenge.

(7) Adam., January 28, 2004 12:00 AM

Tears and hope

Shalom,
My name is Adam and I am a convert. Me and my wife have been trying to have children for almost two years. We are seeing a Infertility doctor here in AZ and have had no luck as it were yet...still I am happy to know that there is a doctor out there that love
G-D and is striving to help people. Our case is diffrent then the men they talked about...and yet I find some hope that if there is one man like this then Maybe jsut maybe G-D will give us the children we are seeking so hard.
May G-D bless you sir and all that you do...may all that your hand touches be made to bear fruit.

(6) Anonymous, January 14, 2002 12:00 AM

Dr. Silber truly is an infertility angel. Dr. Silber performed a vasectomy reversal on my husband only a year ago. His count is now NORMAL and we are on our way. I never dreamed we would have such good results in only a year!

(5) Charli Stanton, October 26, 2001 12:00 AM

Practical application of the Talmud enhances man's service to man

A wonderful synopsis on the practical

application of his life to G d's

service.

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