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The Jewish Ethicist: Widows and Orphans

The Jewish Ethicist: Widows and Orphans

As customers, do widows deserve special treatment ?

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Q. If I have a customer who is a widow, should I give her a discount? If she's late paying, am I allowed to use normal collection actions?

A. In many places, the Torah admonishes us to display special consideration towards widows. We will be able to answer your question if we examine the nature of these varying admonitions.

  • The most common motif regarding widows is to take account of their generally precarious economic circumstances. In at least a half-dozen places, the Torah specifically mentions widows as among those needy individuals we should provide for when we give charity, agricultural tithes, and so on (Deuteronomy 14:29, 16:11, 16:14, 24:19-21; 26:12-13). Someone who has enough is always obligated to provide for those who are needy, but we should pay particular attention to the widow because of the unusual difficulties she has in supporting herself and often simultaneously raising a family.

  • The Torah tells us, "Don't cause anguish to any widow or orphan" (Exodus 22:21). This commandment relates to any widow, whether rich or poor. Here special consideration for the widow is called for because of the likelihood of emotional vulnerability. The memory of loss together with the ongoing experience of going it alone mean that the widow is likely to be more in need of support and encouragement than others.

The first consideration is relevant to your question if the widow is poor. While there is no particular commandment to give a discount to poor people or to refrain from collecting from them, we have discussed many times in the past that the ideal way of helping the needy is through normal market transactions. If you are in a position to give charity to the poor, then an excellent way of doing so is by giving service to them at specially low prices or at unusually favorable terms of credit. This would apply particularly to a widow.

The second consideration is relevant irrespective of the widow's financial situation. We need to relate to everybody in a thoughtful and considerate way, but this is particularly important with someone who is emotionally vulnerable.

Between these two extremes of economic and emotional interaction, there is an intermediate kind that we have often discussed: the human dimension of our market activities. This aspect is related to in the Torah in a third mandate which is a kind of hybrid of the other two. The Torah warns us not to demand a pawn (collateral) from a widow before the loan is due. "Don't distort the judgment of a stranger or an orphan, and don't repossess the garment of a widow" (Deuteronomy 24:17). The Talmud concludes that this commandment, despite its economic nature, applies even to a wealthy widow. The explanation is that this kind of demand can be demeaning or distressing beyond its economic impact.

This commandment is relevant for your situation. A person is always allowed to collect money for services rendered, but even legitimate collection actions sometimes have a way of declining into very adversarial procedures that neither side is necessarily particularly proud of afterwards. If a widow is involved, we should be especially careful to make sure all collection actions or legal actions are carried out in a businesslike fashion.

Some authorities have written that this commandment applies equally to divorced women. (Sema, Choshen Mishpat 97:22.) In general, we should learn from the Torah's attitude towards widows that we should display special consideration towards anyone who is financially or emotionally vulnerable.

Published: July 12, 2003


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Visitor Comments: 1

(1) Beverly Kurtin, July 15, 2003 12:00 AM

Single Moms?

Single mothers also need consideration, as was alluded to in the article. For some reason, married men are seen as having a need for more money as he is "supporting a family," but women, still, to this day, are seen as having no special need in raising her's alone.

I'm not suggesting "more" for the single mom, I'm just saying don't give a woman less money for her work than you give to a man because he has to support his family.

I was a single mom. I wasn't given (nor did I ever expect) a discount at the grocery, when I paid my rent, when I filled up my car. However, I was infuriated when a man who was hired to assist me received a higher salary than me because "he's a man and has responsibilities." I instantly quit that position because I had four years of experience while he had none. I agreed to return to work only after my "assistant" was reassigned and I received his salary.

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