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The Jewish Ethicist: Don't Hire Him!

The Jewish Ethicist: Don't Hire Him!

Can I warn my neighbors about a problematic workman they're thinking of hiring?


Q. My neighbor is thinking of hiring a certain workman, but I have heard many people have had a bad experience with this person. Am I allowed to relay this hearsay?

A. There is a very basic problem with relating hearsay. The Torah commands, "Don't go about as a talebearer among your people; don't stand idly by the blood of your neighbor." Many commentators understand that there is an implied contrast: Idle gossip is forbidden; relating details about people's behavior is permitted only if it is necessary to protect someone from harm , to avoid standing idly by as he is subject to harm.

Rabbi Israel Meir HaKohen of Radin, in the classic book Chafetz Chaim, gives instructions on how to balance these two considerations. One of them is that the commandment to protect your neighbor applies only when you have certain knowledge of the potential danger.

For that reason, he writes that when weighing disclosing defamatory information about someone in order to enable them to recover a loss or harm, it is necessary "that he [the teller] should see the thing himself, and not via hearsay from others, unless he was able to afterwards verify that the matter is true."(1)

That would seemingly make it improper for you to relate the information you heard.

However, in a later chapter when Rabbi HaKohen changes the focus of the discussion. Instead of obtaining recompense for past harm, he discusses protecting someone from future harm, for example by hiring a worker who will act dishonestly or making a business deal with a dishonest businessperson. In this later chapter, the condition is stated slightly differently. There he states that "a person should be very careful not to conclude hastily that the consequences will indeed be adverse, rather he should thoroughly consider the matter if indeed it is bad."

In a footnote there, he explains that more discretion is possible in this case. There are basically two considerations at work:

Past vs. future: In the case of past harm, what is done is done. Just as in court some kinds of evidence are admissible and others are not, likewise in the less formal framework of human relations some kinds of knowledge are strong enough to pass along and others are better left unsaid. But when it comes to preventing harm in the future, stronger steps are justified in protecting the victim.

Harm vs. foregone benefit: In the case of relating past harm, the consequence of relating unsubstantiated information may very well be actual harm to the subject of the report. He may end up having to pay a judgment, or losing his job. In the case of warning someone against a problematic employee or partner, there is no active harm. The subject of the report may fail to obtain a positive benefit in the form of a job or a deal, but he is not made worse off than he started. That doesn't mean the harm is not serious; it is. It is definitely slander to make a disclosure that would keep someone from getting a job or closing a deal. But it is less serious than

When it comes to merely preventing a benefit, less concern has to be shown in protecting the subject of the report.

The example given is virtually identical to your case: A person is interested in hiring an employee, and a friend has heard reliable stories that the person has stolen in the past. Rabbi HaKohen relates that under some conditions it is permissible to relay the information. The conditions are:

  1. That the report is completely accurate. You are not allowed to say that the workman is dishonest, because you don't have direct knowledge. You would have to say very precisely that you have heard from people you trust that they have specific evidence of wrongdoing. You need to be specific and precise.
  2. That the potential employer will not rely on the information beyond its degree of reliability. He doesn't know the person ever stole; he didn't even hear that the person stole from someone who witnessed the misdeed first hand. Furthermore, it is possible that even if the story is true it was a one-time transgression and now the person is completely honest. Therefore, if the employer is likely to besmirch the person's reputation, telling him would be completely forbidden. But if you know this is a thoughtful person who will take your information as one consideration among many in the hiring decision, and will not pass the information on in an irresponsible way, then it is proper to warn him of the potential problems in an accurate way.

So this footnote to the Chafetz Chaim has wise instruction about when potentially damaging information may be relayed. But there is also wisdom in relegating this information to a footnote. There is a well-known tendency to exaggerate the degree of lenient rulings and to permit slander far beyond the permitted degree of harm avoidance. So we should all be aware of the conditions when transmitting accurate negative information can be permitted, but we should also be keenly aware of the potential these leniencies have for abuse.

SOURCES: (1) Chafetz Chaim Volume I chapter 10 paragraph 2 point 1 (2) Chafetz Chaim Volume II chapter 9 paragaraph 2 point 1

July 24, 2010

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Visitor Comments: 4

(4) Linda, August 2, 2010 8:02 PM

Nobody said he stole anything

People love to criticize those who do work for them, as if they could do it better themselves. In the case of no theft for sure, I'd keep my mouth shut. What might have been a problem for one may be no issue at all for another. Why jeopardize a job for someone if it's mostly because somebody likes to grumble?

(3) SusanE, July 29, 2010 2:52 PM

No. You had no direct business with the contractor.

Just because you heard something?? Neither should you suggest a better suitor for the neighbors' daughter, nor a better store for his grocery shopping, nor the type of car he should buy. Do you think your neighbor is stupid? It's his decision. You are asking if you SHOULD tell him, so you are also in doubt of the propriety involved. When in doubt....DON'T.

(2) Sarah, July 28, 2010 11:50 AM

To Shimon: not so, because the people who spoke against the workman have to make sure they're telling this man's friend lashon hara only for his benefit, and not because of personal reasons.

(1) shimon, July 27, 2010 3:17 PM

Let me make it easier. Tell the people who told you about this workman to talk to your friend who wants to hire him. Done simple.

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