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A Simple Casket

A Simple Casket

An expensive coffin is a distraction. Our love is not measured by how much money we spend on the casket.

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With great dignity and love we prepared two ladies, close to 100 years old each, for their burials the next day. After performing the taharah – the Jewish ritual of washing the body after death, we dressed them in plain white shrouds modeled on the garments worn by the High priest in the Holy Temple on Yom Kippur.

We sprinkled sand from Israel on their closed eyes, their hearts and around their bodies. We wrapped them in a linen sheet and said prayers that they should be carried to the higher realms speedily and that God should watch over and shelter them under His protective shade; binding them up in eternal life.

Then we placed each body into very expensive, very solid mahogany caskets.

The contrast was astounding. We had just been engaged in a very spiritual, holy act of preparation for burial, and now we were placing them in shiny, expensive, padded boxes.

I have worked on the local burial society for many years, touching death several times a week. In that preparation room we feel the soul of each woman in our care. Our souls intertwine in that space; it is a very powerful experience. Death is the end of our journey in this world where physicality and spirituality intermingle. We are enjoined to enjoy this world and to elevate the physical by using it well. In our lives we struggle to focus on spirituality while also being physically engaged.

Death begins the process of the soul uncoupling from its body. When we say farewell to our loved one we focus on the good they have done in the world. We elevate their souls by doing kind acts and giving charity in their memory. The currency of the Next World is the goodness we have performed in this world. We dress the deceased in plain white, linen shrouds which have no pockets to remind us that we don’t take anything with us except our good name and the spiritual growth that we have achieved during our allotted lifetime.

At a funeral we focus on the person’s spiritual nature. An expensive coffin is a distraction. The deceased does not need it. Our love is not measured by how much money we spend on the casket.

When we do acts of kindness, learn Torah, say Kaddish, help others and give to charity in the merit of our loved ones, we change the world for the better and the soul of the deceased gets the credit.

What is the value of spending thousands of dollars on a casket that will be put in to the ground within hours of being purchased never to be seen again?

All kosher coffins have holes in the bottom to connect the body with the ground. According to Jewish law, we don’t need caskets at all; it is a concession to American law. In fact, in Israel there are no caskets. The body, wrapped in a shroud, is placed straight into the ground.

Death is the quintessential equalizer. We all pass on from this world. For every woman in our care we say the same prayers, wash them the same way and dress them in the same garments. In some respects the casket is a hindrance to the required process of returning to the earth. We love the person in the box, not the box itself. Choosing a simple, plain pine box takes the focus away from the casing and puts the emphasis on the treasure inside.

December 16, 2017

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Visitor Comments: 6

(4) GP, December 24, 2017 4:43 AM

I'm not aware of having any Jewish ancestry, but I often have said that I wish to be buried in the earth, without a casket, or a very simple one. I don't want to be cremated. I just want my body left alone, a fast burial. All other options disturb and sicken me. This was such a beautiful article.

elissa, December 24, 2017 8:32 PM

thanks

This is an important conversation to have before the tumult of emotions when a person dies. When a person is healthy is the time to think about the kind of after death care you want. The Jewish tradition is filled with psychologically healthy and religiously sound ways to respectfully take care of the body and the soul.

(3) Myrna Beck Gore, December 22, 2017 3:21 PM

Availability of Nice Kosher Caskets

Some funeral homes do not show the simple, but smooth, kosher unstained pine casket with a Magen David on top in their showroom. For my father's funeral, Mom and I had to suggest that we would take our business elsewhere if they couldn't supply the casket described above. Suddenly, the funeral director found what we asked for in a back room. Sad!

(2) Rachel, December 21, 2017 11:32 PM

Surprised a Jewish funeral director allows such a casket

I serve on a Chevra Kadisha, and I have never seen the type of casket you describe allowed by the funeral directors in my area.
I also have concluded that our plain burial garb and coffin are the most environmentally sound. No metal or synthetic fabrics going into the ground, no pollutants from high temperature crematory. I'm happy to think that when I depart the earth at 120, I will not be polluting it for future generations.

Anonymous, December 24, 2017 8:39 PM

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I wonder what area you are in. In the US and in our area most of the caskets used are like the ones I describe.
If in the US the rate of cremation of American Jews is 50% and if the prime reason for this high rate is because of the expense of a burial maybe we could encourage those spending $1,000's on an expensive casket to choose a plain pine box and use the left over money to fund someone else's kosher burial.

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