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Beyonce’s Big Birth Reveal

Beyonce’s Big Birth Reveal

Finding balance between the public and private domain of our lives.

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Beyonce broke the internet with her announcement on Instagram that she is expecting twins. In just eight hours she broke the records for the most liked photo, getting 6,481,207 likes and over 350,000 comments. With headlines like ‘What a Reveal’, Beyonce’s rather bare images were shared around the world, offering an intimate glimpse into her latest journey to motherhood.

We all wish the entertainer well. Her words thanking fans for their well wishes and gratitude for her double blessing is beautiful. But perhaps we should take a moment to consider the way we share the most intimate moments of our lives. Because it is not just entertainers and superstars who post their bodies and expose their inner lives for the world to comment on. This has become the way we live.

We broadcast our lives. Not a trip is taken, roll of sushi eaten, trophy given, without first snapping a photo and posting it. Every accomplishment – from potty training our kids to attaining a higher position in the office – is publicly announced and displayed for all to see and comment on.

Most of the millennials I spoke to about Beyonce’s photo just shrugged it off. “This is what everyone does. We don’t even think about it,” one woman said.

Maybe that’s the root of the problem. We have stopped thinking before we push send.

“Yes,” she nodded. “I bet if we gave it a bit more thought, half these pictures wouldn’t end up online.”

The risk we face is that we forfeit our privacy. We reveal parts of our most intimate selves. Boundaries that were once held sacred are now casually crossed.

This is not about body shaming or restricting self-expression. It is about finding balance between the public and private domain of our lives. It’s about living with nobility, modesty and self-respect.

Judaism encourages us to enjoy your blessings, but to do so modestly. Leave the public display behind. This is the key to tranquility and inner peace. Walk with dignity. Don’t flaunt your life. Not everything is meant to be broadcast and shared with the world.

Radiate your spirit without having to be the center of attention. Maintain the privacy of your inner sanctuary.

When it comes to pregnancy, Judaism gives us a most beautiful expression. We congratulate the expectant parents with the Hebrew words b’sha’ah tovah – a favorable hour. This is a prayer of sorts. We pray for good health and a successful entry by this new soul into the world. We traditionally do not give gifts before the baby is born or celebrate baby showers. There is so much that is out of our hands. Sometimes these innocent souls come into this world suddenly. Anyone who has been witness to a birth and hears the constant heartbeat monitor knows the trembling felt when there seems to be trouble. Holding that baby in your arms and hearing the first sweet sounds of a newborn wailing, one experiences a level of joy never felt before. We don’t take the life that we are carrying for granted. Birth is truly miracle.

So to Beyonce -- and all those expecting babies -- b’sha’ah tovah. May you have an easy pregnancy and merit to raise healthy twins. And I offer this prayer to everyone. Let us never take our time here for granted. Let us resolve to hold onto the sanctity of our inner selves. Value time together, family life, and the hidden blessing that rests within our homes. When we live with gracious modesty, we plug into the dignity that lies within. May we raise our children in good health and joy.

February 4, 2017

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Visitor Comments: 7

(7) Rebecca, February 18, 2017 10:04 AM

Good thoughts...

And I'd add one other thought to the merit of living modestly and keeping some parts our our lives private. If we don't keep some things to share only with those closest to us, then we (and everyone) stop valuing those things. Things that are publicly shared without much of a thought and which we treat as common and public, will not be appreciated and valued to the extent of those which we reserve for only our closest friends and family. I think that includes our bodies and our relationships. When we display these casually, we not only send a message to the world that we do not hold these in high esteem, but we also start to internalize that message ourselves.

(6) Beatrice Pogin, February 7, 2017 10:42 AM

disagree

i disagree. The photos are very beautiful, and they celebrate femininity and pregnancy., and i think they were done a respectful way. They also are celebrating a black woman. i'm old enough to remember when women did not go out much women were expected to more or less hide. That Beyonce is a celebrity gives her the platform to say things that others don't have access to. Hurray for her. The photos-although i'm not that 'literate', i thought were also from an art standpoint, revolutionary in the almost Renaissance depiction. It is a Black woman shown in this very loving manner. If the Jewish press wants to criticize lack of privacy or pornography norms in the press, or social media, there are many more flagrant and upsetting examples of such. and i know this won't go over but feel i have to say it.

(5) Anonymous, February 6, 2017 5:37 PM

Thank you for giving all the young people of the world the understanding that real strength and courage is about celebrating your gifts and successes with grace, gratitude and a lot of modesty. It goes against the tide to be happy and proud inside and not announce it in a bigger and better way then the next person. We live in a culture where there is no mystery and respect is just about your last publicized accomplishment: what about the ability to always be thinking about your "friends" who can't have what you have, and just keep it quiet? I guess the Entertainment industry has their own standards, but I loved your words.. "Radiate your spirit without having to be the center of attention. Maintain the privacy of your inner sanctuary." For the rest of us!! It's a lot of work to keep up the appearances that many do, and in the end they have nothing left for only themselves. Great article!

(4) John Hughes, February 6, 2017 5:15 PM

Good morning Slovie, First and foremost I want to thank you for your continuous thoughts and prayers. God willing I'll be in Wednesday. It's amazing what you said about pushing the send button for social media to know all about ones private life. It used to be think before you speak . And if you spoke too soon It might be to 1 or 100 people but now that little finger sends a message to the whole world. Extremely dangerous. You would think someone's life was worth more than that . Thank you for a powerful message . I only hope that this gets sent through social media and becomes an eye opener to many . Best regards and have a great day.

(3) Anonymous, February 5, 2017 2:24 PM

Thank you, Slovie, for communicating so beautifully, how to hold most beautifully, what is meant to be held most beautiful!

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