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Pushing Death

Pushing Death

Society’s emphasis on the quality of life society is perverting our most basic moral intuitions.


Recently, I had a chance to spend a day with one of my closest friends from law school. Near the end of our time together, he shared the story of the passing of his mother whom I had the pleasure of meeting many decades ago.

Towards the end the end of her life, she was hospitalized with pneumonia. The doctor told her oldest son that she would not be able regain her strength unless a feeding tube was inserted to bring her the necessary nutrients. Her son decided against the feeding tube on the grounds that his mother had lived a full life – she was then 96 – and that the operation entailed certain risks and might be painful.

When my friend went to visit his mother in hospice, he was shocked to find that all her medications had been stopped as well. He asked his brother what was going on, and his brother told him that everything was being done to ensure the smoothest, most painless passage to the next world.

“But have you asked Mama what she wants?” my friend asked. The two brothers agreed that they would put the question to their mother together. They sat in her room, one either side of her, each holding one of her hands, while the older son explained the choices that he had made. He concluded by asking his devoutly religious mother, whether she was prepared to meet her Maker.

“Well, son, I don’t think I am – at least not quite yet,” she replied. My friend related that at that moment he felt like jumping up and cheering Over the next two months, his mother proceeded to eat herself out of hospice entirely.

Why was I so struck by this story? Because it provides a good example of how the societal emphasis on the quality of life society has warped our thinking and perverted our most basic moral intuitions.

My friend’s older brother loved his mother dearly. There can be no question of an ill motive in his decisions: Yet so sincerely did he believe that he was acting in his mother’s best interests by helping her gently let go of life that he did not even bother to ask her what she wanted.

Down the Slippery Slope

Judge Neil Gorsuch chronicles in his book The Future of Euthanasia and Assisted Suicide the slippery slope that inevitably follows from departures from the traditional view of the sanctity of every life.

Already 20 years ago, the Second and Ninth Circuits both endorsed a broad constitutional right to assisted suicide for competent, terminally ill persons. Though the Supreme Court narrowly overturned both decisions, a majority of the justices appeared prepared to recognize a right to assisted suicide in particular circumstances.

The Netherlands is the country with the longest experience with euthanasia and assisted suicide going back to a 1984 statute. The autonomy argument has now been extended in the Netherlands to non-terminally ill patients and to include forms of suffering that are not physical. In addition, it has been extended to children as young as twelve years old, as long he possesses a reasonable understanding of his interests and obtains parental consent. By 16, parental consent is no longer required. According to a large survey of Dutch physicians, by 1990 there were already 8,750 deaths, or 7 per cent of all deaths in the Netherlands, as a consequence of active intervention to shorten life or withdrawal of medical treatment for the same purpose, without the explicit consent of the victims.

And the basis for action, according to the Dutch Supreme Court, in the majority of cases was physicians’ “quality of life assessments.” And those quality of life assessments were based on an ever-widening list of factors. Initially, about 50% involved assessments of the patient’s acute pain and suffering. But more recently, pain is the principle factor in less than 20% of physicians assessments, surpassed by such factors as the lack of social interest in the “needless prolongation of life” (33%) or even the “inability to cope” of the patient’s family.

Physician-assisted suicide is now moving in the direction of utilitarian arguments about which lives are worth societal investment and which ones are not.

In short order, a movement to permit euthanasia or physician-assisted suicide based on theories of personal autonomy evolved in the direction of the types of utilitarian arguments about which lives are worth societal investment and which ones are not that were popular among early euthanasia and eugenics enthusiasts in the United States – including Harvard professors, college presidents, and Supreme Court Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes (“three generations of idiots is enough”) – until the Nazis gave euthanasia a really bad name.

Another chilling discovery of the large survey of Dutch physicians is that only about half of the cases of euthanasia or physician-assisted suicide are reported at all. In the rest of the cases, the attending physician just lists the case as “death by natural causes.” So there is no effective supervision or way for the government to know how many of those killed might be suffering from temporary or alleviable depression or the like.

Nor do the legally sanctioned killings always go smoothly. In about 16 per cent of the cases there were “problems with completion,” i.e., the patient died neither as quickly nor as painlessly as predicted.

Doctors Refusing Assisted Suicide in Canada

In 2015, the Canadian Supreme Court found a constitutional right to physician-assisted suicide and gave the Canadian parliament a year to draft an appropriate statute guaranteeing that “right.” Though the statute recognized a physician’s right not to assist in such a suicide for reasons of conscience, the provincial medical associations were delegated authority to draft regulations concerning the obligations of physicians under the statute.

The College of Physicians and Surgeons of Ontario issued regulations requiring physicians who refuse to assist in a suicide for reasons of religion or conscience to nevertheless refer the patient to another physician who is prepared to assist the suicide. (Ontario includes Toronto and is home to the largest number of Jewish physicians of any province in Canada.)

Failure to do so, according to the regulations, will be considered “abandonment” of the patient. The College of Physicians and Surgeons has the power to revoke the licenses of non-complying physicians. Providing “effective referral,” according to the College, is not “assisting” in a suicide, and therefore cannot be said to violate the conscience of the referring physician

Unfortunately, the judgment about whether the referring physician is implicated in the subsequent killing of the patient is not one for the Ontario College of Physicians to make. It is an issue of Halacha, Jewish law: Does such a referral violate the prohibition against being “mesayeah l’davar aveirah” – helping someone commit a transgression. A number of Catholic doctors and professional organizations representing Christian doctors, Bnai Brith of Canada, and at least one Orthodox physician, Dr. Ellen Warner, a full professor of medicine at the University of Toronto and an oncologist, who deals with many end of life patients, have filed suit to prevent enforcement of the guidelines of the Ontario College of Physicians and Surgeons, on the grounds that they violate both their religious conscience and their conception of the proper task of a physician as preserving life. And efforts are underway in parliament to secure physicians an exemption from making referrals.

Such statutes may make it impossible for believing Jews to enter the practice of medicine or to continue as physicians.

In late December, the Rabbinical Council of America published a resolution, passed at the initiative of Rabbis Chaim Strauchler and Daniel Korobkin, both of Toronto, condemning physician assisted death as forbidden by Jewish law, which views life as a gift of God that only He can take away.

The resolution points out that such statutes may make it impossible for believing Jews to enter the practice of medicine or to continue as physicians. It also notes, as does Judge Gorsuch, that the so-called “right to die” often transmogrifies into a “duty to die” for vulnerable patients who worry about being a burden, financial or otherwise, to their families. And it takes little imagination to see how health care providers, eager to avoid the high cost of late life care, will provide incentives to create something like a “duty to kill” for physicians who want to work for them.

An Alarming Story

Living with Dignity,” the Lifelines story that appeared in a recent issue of Mishpacha Magazine, illustrates graphically how physician assisted suicide statutes completely transform the mindset of health care providers.

Every single physician and nurse in the true story, with the sole exception of the Orthodox “Dr. Sharon Finer,” who insists that the mother’s condition is “completely treatable,” appears to view their duty with respect to a terminally ill patient as to expedite their departure from the world.

First, the hospital in which the 84-year-old cancer patient is being treated tells her that cancer has metastasized to her bones and stomach lining, and that she has only a day or two to live. She is sent home to die. By prematurely ending treatment, the hospital caused her needless pain by failing to detect calcium leaking from her bones into her blood.

After being admitted to second hospital via the emergency room, that hospital too soon gives up on medical treatment, and keeps sending teams of palliative specialists to ask whether she would like increased doses of morphine, which can often trigger a fatal heart attack. Those same professionals next recommend cessation of hydration, which will lead inevitably to death.

“We are here to help you die, if that is your wish – and we truly believe it is.”

Only after the elderly cancer patient realizes that death is not as imminent as she was told, does she insist on lowering her pain medication so she can resume normal activities. For her efforts, she is visited by a series of psychiatrists who try to convince her to die already. One asks her, “Do you have any meaning in life?” Even after being assured that she does, he tells her in his most soothing voice, “We are here to help you die, if that is your wish – and we truly believe it is.”

Another young resident completely misreads a CT scan, which she should never have discussed with the patient, and tells her that the situation is hopeless. She then falsely writes on her chart that the patient expressed a desire to cease treatment.

Today, more than half a year after the first prediction of death within a day or two, the narrator’s mother goes to the gym every day to work out on the elliptical machine and lift weights, reads prodigiously, and greets her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren with a smile.

Sometimes, even under medial regimes which appropriate to themselves the ability to assess the “quality of life,” the merchants of death strike out.


This article originally appeared in Mishpacha magazine.

April 19, 2017

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(12) Tonna, January 31, 2018 7:26 PM

an epiphany...

Thank you so much for your article. You have allowed me the blessing of an epiphany. Years ago, when my husband was in the hospital for treatments due to his illness, his nurse asked him about signing the DNR (do not resuscitate) paperwork. He said no. His mother spoke with him, the nurse spoke with him...they asked me to speak with him. And initially, I did not want to as I felt if he said no then that was what he meant. But, because others "explained" the reasoning behind this and such...I felt that I must be thinking incorrectly. So, I too spoke with him. Of course, he again said no. For these past years since, I have not thought again of this moment...thank you for allowing me to re-visit it and in doing so, allow me an epiphany into my own heart and soul.

(11) Rachel, July 17, 2017 2:23 AM

If YOU haven't suffered, you shouldn't judge

I am extremely blessed to be alive and reasonably well.

However, some years ago I was in a coma, with a feeding tube. However, when I regained consciousness, I felt I was being starved and deprived of fluid. While I was receiving what was medically necessary to keep me alive, I was absolutely miserable until I was permitted to resume eating.

40 years ago I was a hospital candy striper. One of our regular duties was to feed patients. Now it seems hospitals immediately resort to feeding tubes. This is the case even if the patient wants to refuse.

I would sign up again for a feeding tube if there were a high likelihood I would be able to eat on my own again. However, if I were told that I'd spend the rest of my life on a feeding tube, I would decline. 100 years ago this would not have been an issue. Refusing painful and humiliating treatments is not euthanasia

(10) Anonymous, May 2, 2017 11:44 AM

Differentiating between the two issues

It seems to me as if some of the commenters are lumping physician assisted suicide together with the desire to stop active medical treatment. If someone chooses palliative care instead of aggressive treatment aren't they just choosing to live out their remaining days in comfort?

(9) Robin Bass, April 28, 2017 3:41 PM

supporting the right to die

While I do agree that it should be the person's decision whether to let go or fight...this western attitude about death is very warped in my opinion. Death is a part of life...and just another step on a long journey. My mother was an avid skier and extremely active until she was 86 when her heart began to fail. After a number of hospitalizations, she decided that she was done. She asked to stop all medications and go home to die. She and I had talked about this for years, and I knew her wishes. My brother also knew and respected them. She was lucky to live in a state with assisted suicide although in the end she didn't need it. Her doctor, a devout Christian was opposed, but her rabbi, not only supported her, but came to visit many times to comfort her, and make sure she was ok..which she was. All her friends came to say their goodbyes and tell her how much she meant to them while she was still alive. She died very peacefully in her own bed. I have also talked to my children about my wishes and therefore they know that even if I can't tell them like my mother did, they will support my desire to die when my quality of life has ended...for me

(8) Joey, April 26, 2017 5:47 PM

Look up the case of Charlie Gard, a truly awful situation going on in the United Kingdom right now. He's a baby whose parents want to take him to the United States for treatment with money they raised themselves, but the court has actually ruled that not only are they not allowed, he's going to be taken off life support. It's estimated that he could live as long as twelve years, but the government won't let him.

God bless.

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