Internet Dangers, Revisited

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(24) Don, March 20, 2011 3:38 AM

Internet..

I don't see internet as a direct threat. It's just a form of comunicattion. It was introduced as virtual reality. I don't see much virtual in it. Behind it there are usually real people, real shops, real banks etc. And behind it are real laws and real courts. Internet just makes it conveniatelly accesible. It is a form of new media. It is already substituting television in younger population with tremendous speed. It's up to everyone to decide what will she/he do with ones live. Children should learn that internet is our reality. It has real laws behind it. So piracy is equal to stealing in the shop. As with all media there comes the danger of manipulation and missinformation, personal theft etc. But on the other side it can provide us with worldwide information and friends. With knowledge unimaginable before. Parents shoul also look into searching information eficiently. Advise some good pages like Wikipedia, National Geographics, Aish, local news stations, interesting portals..

(23) Anonymous, November 27, 2010 9:44 AM

the internet has made my life with my son a living hell. i can't help but wish all pornographers burn in hell.

(22) Anonymous, November 18, 2010 12:15 AM

Do we really HAVE to have Internet ? !!!

It seems that "all" agree that the religious Jewish modern man MUST HAVE the access to Internet even with all its inherent religious and moral dangers. Over two thousand years ago It was the accepted worldwide assumption that any cultured individual MUST worship idols. Our sages explain that idolatry was not merely one's empty-headed service to a stone or a cow. Rather it was a highly developed lost science - so to speak, that allowed man to manipulate powers of nature for one's success in survival and general well-being, while circumventing one's true responsibilities to the Creator of all powers. It was the "in thing to do" as well as a very profitable endeavor. Nevertheless, religious Jews chose to keep away from all of idol-worship even at the pain of death ! Shouldn't we too follow their lead and keep away from Internet even if it has many materialistic benefits ? One might say "soon there won't be any banking or even much shopping off the Internet ". Is that an excuse ? We, for our religious reasons will continue to have all the "old-fashioned" institutions for the sake of our beliefs if we can't totally kosher the dangers of what is called seemingly progress. We did it in the past so why not keep up the good work ! MUST we not do so ?!

(21) Menashe, November 15, 2010 11:00 AM

Encrypt your router

A danger is when a household does not WEP encrypt their wireless and does not keep the password secret. Here in my village in Israel, I see teenagers in the street being able to access any unencrypted home wireless router. A household that does not encrypt its wireless routers may be inadvertently allowing children to access unsuitable things via their iPods etc., right outside your own home.

(20) Pauline, November 12, 2010 7:23 PM

Safety Tips and warnings.

Before opening sites your unfamiliar with, it's best to research them. There are sites specifically for this. It is like a consumer advocate site. It will rate sites it's heard of (by it's own research or by complaints), as to what they think of it's safety level. A bad site can download all kinds of stuff to your computer. An instant attack can of course destroy your hard drive, it can download your personal records to who ever, and pass it on. It can also take over your computer and use it to pass porn through to other people. (FYI it's illegal to look at child porn, and if found on your computer, can cause all kinds of head aches to prove you did not commit a crime, to prove that a virus put it there. I've heard stories on TV about this problem. Music sites are notorious for doing this.) An attack can use the list of all people you do e-mail with, and try to infect their computers too. It's recommended to do a full scan check for viruses with the latest checking stuff out there, at least once a week. And use multiple virsus checking stuff, not just one. Oh, one safety search site is "SiteAdvisor.com" by Macafee, (they specialize in software security products). They also have a browser plug in that is free. It can automatically check search results for you, and rate the sites as to safe, questionable, or unsafe. It's not fool proof but it's helpful. Also, never click yes or no on an unknown site, only click on the X to get rid of it. As to facebook, my friend just last week had to get her site closed because someone put a porno video on her site, and said it was of her. It wasn't of her of course, but prospective employers, and strangers wouldn't know this. Also, teens and others can say very hurtful stuff of other children on facebook. Bullying via electronic stuff has put some teens over the edge, to commit suicide. Recently a horrific rape story was on Oprah. The situation resulted in about 160 rapist replying to an ad by a vengeful ex.

(19) Rachel, November 12, 2010 6:39 AM

A teenagers point of view

Wow! I cannot believe the divine providence that I chanced upon this just now- today. I have just finished crying my eyes out about the mess I got into because of the internet. In short, for whatever reason I hooked up with the wrong people through FB. I messaged a guy last Friday, and its not even a week later and I met him twice. Today, I found out that he is in legal trouble, and I was threatened that if I dont break this up, I might be in trouble too, because of my affiliation with him. Of course I closed my account and any email address that had any unwanted contacts. Thank God I got the proper guidance to get out of this, and hopefully all will end well. Yet it still hurts like crazy, and the damage is huge. Even though I shouldn't of met him in first place, meeting someone and having to end it suddenly is a very hard thing, especially if it is someone that you liked. I know I am doing the right thing. But its hard to be happy about it. I have learnt my lesson the hard way. Now my life, my name, and more are in jeopardy!!!!!

(18) Anonymous, November 11, 2010 5:56 PM

Website - guardyoureyes.org

For men struggling with this problem there is a website called guardyoureyes.org that has helped (and continues to help) many.

(17) Elana, November 11, 2010 5:21 PM

Same dangers as always

I agree with Margarita; parents must talk with their children on a regular basis regarding the dangers...of not just the internet, but everything in general. Same as smoking and drugs. What, you think your child will never be exposed to those dangers as well? If you are too restrictive (ex, I won't have anything in my home), they will end up resenting you and will just go over to their friends' homes. No, that is not the answer. You, as a parent, must talk to them, and teach them by example. What good is it if you are always on the internet and then block them from going on? Limits for everyone!! Talk about the "bad websites and people" out there. Bring examples from the news like I did, where I told them about a child who was killed because she thought she was talking to a friend her age and it turned out to be a crazy adult. Or what about viruses. I had my computer destroyed because of an innocent link from a friend on facebook. And we had an antivirus protection. So we learned...we don't open any links now unless we requested it ourselves. We, all of us, have to be careful, about everything. Yes, I tell my kids, I am monitoring where you go. They know that. They get only limited abouts of time on the net per day, (and so do I). Talk, talk, talk, and then set an example. Do not smoke if you don't want your kids to smoke, etc. So hard to do the right thing though. Sigh, life is not easy, is it Rabbi?

(16) Mordechai, November 11, 2010 12:16 AM

filter and reporter

Just one comment. I just attended a large community meeting in Baltimore about the dangers of the Internet and how to protect our families, and the speaker said that the best protection is to not have it in your home. However, if this is proving to be an impossibility, than you need to have not just a filter such as K9, but a "reporter" as well, such as eBlaster. One without the other is not enough. I heard these words reiterated with even more strength by Rav Yosef Veiner. Also, filters have been developed as well as reporter programs (I think) for phones.

(15) Anonymous, November 10, 2010 5:52 PM

as a paramedic, i have seen families torn apart by the internet. the fathers surfing where they shoudn't, and less frequently mothers shopping out of control and losing their home to overwhelming debt.

(14) Ronni, November 10, 2010 5:44 AM

Parents

Yes, we need to speak with our kids because there will always be someone that'll make this stuff available to them but that doesn't excuse us from making the effort to begin with. In my case that meant when my kids wanted the Ipod Touch I refused and so they got a Nano instead. The whole "wonderful features" plea didn't work on me Thank G-d. At home I do use the K-9 filter and I'm the only one with the password. Honestly though, adults watching porn are the bigger problem then kids, the adults are married at least the kids aren't.

(13) Margarita, November 9, 2010 9:17 PM

start younger

i think that the talk should come much earlier than teenager, especially if you use something like fire analogy. if a child goes to school, using internet is very valuable to do projects and researches. if you introduce your child to the net early with the strict supervision and try to relax the supervision a bit when child is pre-teenager (with regular talks about it like any other subject), you have better chances to win in this "game". we are better off teaching children how to live a real life than try to shelter them from everything and allow them to grow up not prepared for the real world where everything is going to be a shock.

(12) Anonymous, November 9, 2010 7:13 PM

Not only kids are in danger

Grown ups can also find themselves exposed to the most gross images and sick "information". The depraved are using URLs that are almost identical to legitimate and serious sites. They may use a hyphen, drop or add an s, change i for y, or use the good site's name as theme. You click and find yourself in a disgusting pornographic site. If you are looking for anything with the word "adult" in it, beware: it seems adult has become synonym with obscene. About two years ago I was looking for Mid Manhattan Adult Learning Center, a dependence of the New York City Department of Education, and was directed to a porno page with no time to defend myself against the horrific assault. Even after all this time I'm still revolted. You are right, Rabbi, we have to be extra careful. I've always had my PC's security and contents set to High, and yet...the unexpected happened to me. Today I always take time to look onto Norton's site safety full report BEFORE visiting any page I'm not familiar with. Thank you for your valuable insights. G-d bless you.

(11) Mati, November 9, 2010 6:26 PM

Why do you find a need to give your child a phone?

Are we (adults) so spoiled that we feel we should give our children adult products?

(10) Aaron Shafter, November 9, 2010 3:04 PM

Audio Problems

This is an important topic so please check the file. The middle of the recording which is where Rabbi Salomon gives suggestions for internet filtering software is unintelligible. I am internet savvy and don't need suggestions but many are not. This is an important topic and the information is needed by many parents, so please fix the file.

(9) suzanne, November 9, 2010 2:38 PM

Very timely piece

Thank you, Rabbi.

(8) ruth housman, November 9, 2010 2:21 PM

life is bipolar

good morning, you hit it on the nose, in what you said, namely that the internet, like all things, can be used for bad and even terrible purposes with bad consequences and it can be dangerous, and it's also a wider window to the world in many positive and life enhancing ways, for example, people who are handicapped, who cannot leave their wheelchairs, and even can barely point. For them, there is the ultimate in wheelchair travel and the joys of it, in communicating with others on the outside. Just one tiny example and there are myriad positives about being so connected on "the WEB". But yes, there are downers, and severe ones, and children often wind up in situations of extreme danger, from unscrupulous people who prey on them, and for other reasons, of course. I think the message is definitely to educate one's children to the joy and wonder of technology, and to the down sides. And to look in any newspaper at the ethical issues of our time and what is weighted in making such decisions shows there is a plus and minus side. Perhaps in striving for middle ground, the gray, we get to use our "gray matter". Education of children is a sacred responsibility!

(7) Rosally Saltsman, November 9, 2010 1:50 PM

Why Internet on a cell?

Why does anyone, let alone a kid need Internet on a phone? Whenever I get a new cellphone for myself or my son, I ask the provider to disable the Internet and not charge me for it. Unfortunately, the worst danger on the computer is creeps who know how to get around the different kinds of security and have horrible things pop up when you go to a regular address. You have to be very careful! A kid through no fault of their own coulld be led to really soul-harming stuff!

(6) Anonymous, November 9, 2010 1:46 PM

The dangers are for every age and population. Men and women too, are being sucked into internet pornography at an alarming rate. This destroys the family, it is mental adultery and often leads to acting-out the behaviors seen. Some research shows numbers are as high as 70 to 90% of men and teens have viewed internet porn within a 3 month period. Evaluate your real need...do we really need internet capable phones, etc.?

(5) Avigail, November 9, 2010 1:07 PM

BioTerriorist Vaccines are much more dangerous

Thanks for this article and I agree with your sentiments with the exception that by far the biggest threat to our children is not the Internet, but Vaccines that are Biological Weapons developed to destroy our childrens brain function, sterilise them and introduce a host of auto-immune diseases that destroy our childrens functionality. Please google this, particularly Dr. Leonard Horowitz PhD, Prof. Russell Blaylock et al, and read about the real dangers. The tragic part in this is that parents are duped into believing these weapons are used to enhance our childrens "health". Read the Bilderberg Group's definition of what they consider "health" for our children. Mass Genocide. The only difference is that now they dont need to round us up in concentration camps, we stand in line for mans poison. This is by far the greatest threat our children face in this century.

(4) lisa, November 9, 2010 12:18 AM

BEWARE!!

Yes...cell phones...computers are our best friend & our worst enemy!!! Thanks for the reminder....

(3) Moshe, November 8, 2010 8:44 PM

The Rabbi is right, But!

I dont let mykids have any cell phone. I know that its not the real solution but it helps alot.

(2) Annette, November 8, 2010 4:40 PM

AMEN V'AMEN! But addicition is the word; and it comes in many forms. This is only ONE of them.

Minds are being snatched up by every type of addiction, including cell phones with or without internet, and lives' are at stake from the use of these while driving, spouse & child neglect in the homes is common and rising while 'hooked and high' on this equipment over eating, over talking, watching or talking life away rather than participating in it, etc. I was being interviewed when my phone rang 4 times. The interviewer was almost sweating because I wouldnt answer it. I showed him how I turned it off each time and told him 'this is our time, you are interviewing me'. I'm in control of the cell phone, it's only a tool, like a hammer or a spoon or money. And I believe The Almighty wants me to control the tools that I am supossed to rule over. I can do it. So can you. As we used to say in the 70's: JUST DO IT!

(1) SusanE, November 8, 2010 3:53 AM

Who pays for it?

Ahhhh......... the cellphone and the internet........a 21st century cunnning, beautiful and enticing serpent.

 

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