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3 Things You Should Never Do For Your Kids

Here’s where you need to draw the line.


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Visitor Comments: 52

(37) Barbara, June 30, 2013 6:15 PM

One more that I wish I had followed when my kids were younger--never do anything for them that they are capable of doing for themselves! When we do "too much" no matter how well meaning--we deprive them of developing skills and the joy that comes with achieving.

(36) Anonymous, June 30, 2013 3:32 PM

Any advise would be helpful

Up until he reached 17 none of those thing were a problem in my house. But the influence of school and friend with lazy parents has taken it's toll. He has become disrespectful and lie to get what he wants from me without thinking twice. He appears to have adopted the motto "it's better to ask for forgiveness than beg for permission." This child has no father to correct the behavior and I feel like I am losing the battle. I want my good hearted respectful child back, but I don't know how to fight peer pressure.

Nigel, January 4, 2017 7:56 AM

A unique human tests the boundaries !

I am hoping you don't want your unruly child to become a photocopy of you.
You cannot demand respect ( or love). You can only earn it.
Your child is practising becoming an individual in his own right. Try anything new and we all make lots of mistakes as you will as a parent in this situation.
At the end of this process your child will be quite different from you even possibly with quite different core vales.
Everybody us entitled to their own individual core values. If they get that wrong, "karma" will demonstrate it to them - leave it to karma. Don't try and correct it yourself.
What can you do ?
You can state the things of which you are certain. Often times your child will rubbish it. Do not respond any further or get into any argument.
You have stated your case, "A", he has rubbished it "B". There will come a time when he will adopt A. When that happens do not claim authorship, just say well done as though it was his idea.
Praise him when he does well "Good". "That's nice" are all you need.
When he is contrary, just let it pass. Make nothing if it.
This way, you will be confirming the positive with your praise and diminishing the negative of contrary behaviour by your ignoring it.
You will find, in time, you will have regained a son you can be proud of.
Pstience !

(35) chana, June 30, 2013 10:00 AM

How to teach teenagers to be respectful

Any good advice as how to teach or remind teenagers to be more respectful and not to lie?
For the first decade of their lives they seemed to be o.k., but now after turning 13, all as changed (boys).
Thanks

(34) Anonymous, June 30, 2013 5:33 AM

disagree with let them choose their own friends

All of the idea are great, however the one about letting them choose their own friends does not seem to be correct. There are so many bad influences out there, that it behooves parents and teachers to wisely steer youngsters away from choices that will affect their charges negatively. At the same time, it is wise to somehow come up with a plan to strategically place good friends in their children's/students range.

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