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Keep It Down!

Is wedding music out of control?


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Some people are funny. Some are insightful. Some are cynical. Some find a humorous touch in everything. Others find irony. Some write beautifully. Few people do them all as well as Rabbi Yaakov Salomon does. Entertaining, inspiring, astute, he has the uncommon ability to look something to give us pause and make us think. His new book, Something to Think About , gives us just that -- with a healthy dose of wit and charm. Click here to order.


April 28, 2007

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Visitor Comments: 41

(41) Zissi, July 12, 2007 10:15 PM

The hearing damage is irreprable

The worst thing that the hearing loss is irreperable. I work with deaf and hard-of-hearing students and many of them still blare the music very loudly, oblivious that is making it worse. Not only that, what makes it worse is that babies are often at these simchas and they are very susceptible to hearing problems. My husband even put earplugs in our son's ears at the last wedding we went to (he's six months old).

(40) Anonymous, July 3, 2007 7:27 AM

Right on the mark.

This is the main reason I don't attend weddings nowadays. I love music and used to attend weddings until 3 AM. No more. Can't communicate with the person right next to me. Keep up the good work and keep the noise level way down.

(39) Phil, May 13, 2007 9:25 PM


I'm going to spin what Ari just wrote:

"I think there are more important things to try to change this one, but Rabbi Salomon, you're probably right. Thanks!"

(38) Ari, May 10, 2007 11:58 AM

Pick your battles

While you are probably right, I think there are more important things to try to change than this one. Sorry.

(37) Anonymous, May 10, 2007 12:30 AM

Decibel Level Reduction for Simcha Bands

I heartily applaud Rabbi Salomon's plea to turn down the music. I too am a music lover but I can't remember the last simcha I attended where I was actually able to hear what the person sitting across from (or next to) me was saying. I usually have to keep shreiking "whaaaat???' at the table, try to read their lips, and then pretend that I understood what my friend or new acquaintance has told me. My ears actually hurt from the noise level and headaches are not unheard of. My husband (who's an Ear Nose & Throat physician) & I have become so concerned about the simcha music's outrageously high decibel level that I keep several pairs of disposable ear plug protection in my purse for every wedding, Bar/Bat Mitzvah. My ENT husand is seeing patients with hearing loss at younger and younger ages due to environmental noise. For our own family's smachot, we made a point of putting in the contract with the DJ/Band that we reserved the right to ask them to "turn it down". We were glad to see that they complied. The Israeli catering hall idea may sound drastic, but with time will help people re-educate and orient themselves to normal music decibel levels. The cycle needs to be broken; bands think they don't sound "good" unless they are loud, so that is what they promote at the simcha. "Loud" shouldn't be confused with "good" music.

[An Aish Reader from New Jersey]

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