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Raising Wimps?

Here's the 4 step cure.

Published: January 24, 2009


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Visitor Comments: 24

(24) stephen, February 1, 2009 8:48 PM

good advice

i was having trouble with my thirteen yearold daughter i took her cell phone off her about 2 weeks ago and ive seen a big change ih her manner shes never getting it back

(23) Nechama, February 1, 2009 9:04 AM

ANY ADVICE?

My youngest child (29) and his wife, both of whom I love dearly, are raising their two children this way. If I say anything, I am told that they are very sensitive to the child's feelings and that this is important. The kids whine, cry and get what they want. The parents bargain too. I usually don't but in and I see that my diplomatic comments go unheaded so I've decided to keep quiet, but it hurts. These beloved grandchildren are not being taught to cope or to do without in any way. Does anyone out there have any advice? I would sure appreciatd it.

(22) Shulamit, January 30, 2009 2:43 PM

Great message all parents should hear!

Great message! I've been noticing way too many spoiled kids myself and the parents that encourage it by exactly doing those things you mentioned. A great book that conveys your message is out there. It's called "The Blessing of a Skinned Kneee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children " by Wendy Mogel.

(21) MARGARITA, January 30, 2009 12:51 AM

I LOVED YOUR MESSAGE

I am a mother to 4 sons. The youngest is 27 now.(they all have homes of their own) My OLDEST son saw that we was not going to spoil him by giving him everything he wanted. So at the age of 7, he FOUGHT, to go and live with my parents. They gave him anything he wanted, or else he would throw a tantrum and bust-up their house. We raised the other 3 the old fashion way. We could not aford the best of everything to give them. Most of their toys were second-hand and broken when they got them. But they appreciated each one. Once a classmate came over to visit. But he said that he would never come back, because we didn't have any video or modern games and toys, ect. ALL my sons walked to school by their self (as I did) even the one who lived with my parents. They were all warned about talking to strangers at a very young age. I myself didn't learn to drive till I was 31. We all walked. The 3 that I raised, turned out MUCH BETTER in life than the one who lived with my parents and had everything. Cell phones were not invented than. I would not have bought one for them anyway. I still don't own one myself. Yes, finding a payphone is difficult, these days. But I have the choice to either pay a monthly cell phone bill or for the same price, pay life insurance on my husband, in case he dies, so I won't loose my house. I can't aford both. My children learned about G_d at a very young age. The 3 that I raised, keep G_d in their life daily. But not the oldest. He also wants to stay distant from all of us.

(20) Rivkah, January 29, 2009 10:32 PM

An idea

DearRabbi you are my fav blog, i think you have covered everything.. almost.=) Would you please consider doing a piece about empty nesters? All articles regarding the little ones is important but I often feel over looked as a new empty nester. I have mixed feelings about it and would love your take. thank you for a wonderful start to my day. Shalom, Rivkah

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