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Inflexible: A True Story

Where are you needlessly inflexibile?

Published: June 6, 2009


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Visitor Comments: 19

(19) Raymond Bastarache, February 4, 2014 5:11 PM

flexible is to be on our part...not others?

G-d rules our lives...all our steps are numbered.. The test, here, in this situation at the small claim court application's window.. was not for the man at the window to be flexible? but to teach you respect for this man's position.. and accept his response and thank him! for being truly honest with you and with his employer? It could cost him his job if found out, by breaking the rules . Are you going to support his livelihood then? allow to accept the man's ruling...that is........ flexibility! Shalom.

(18) elisabeth, June 11, 2009 12:01 AM

Very grateful !

I soooooooo wholeheartedly agree. Inflexibility leads so frequently to fanaticism and the latter, in turn to bigotry, hatred, tragedies...

(17) Anonymous, June 10, 2009 7:48 AM

Can 't think of my own example....

I enjoyed your blog very much. Right now I can't think of my own example. But I remember asking a neighbor whether she wanted to go to a shiur on a Wednesday. She automatically said, "I clean my house on Wednesday." Luckily, she reconsidered, came to shiur, enjoyed it and saw many women she knew. Some people have "schedules" that they hate to change.

(16) Sue, June 9, 2009 10:17 PM

non-flexibility

Talk about inflexible. I had to deal a few years ago with the German government for my mother's pension. Extremely inflexible. Israelis now there's a flexible innovative people.

(15) Pinchas, June 9, 2009 8:45 PM

Use our home?

Recently, we heard guest were coming in from out of town and needed a place to stay for Yom Tov. We had panned on going away and had a major chesed opportuniy at hand. My wife and I looked at each other in doubt. "Let someone use our home, our bed, does that surpass our comfort limit?" We debated and called my Rabbi, saying that for our marriage sake, we must get over our complex, and give it over. We let them use it and felt very good about it. In fact, how could we of decided otherwise? My outstanding question was why did the Rabbi say "for your marriage sake?" I think this was because marriage can't become beautiful with selfishness. Our comforts sometimes can be the biggest obstacle in marriage. We are in exile, in as much as we should never feel comfortable where we presently are, we should never feel comfortable in our ways.

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