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Honey I Bubble Wrapped the Kids

At what age do we let them go?

Published: June 13, 2009


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Visitor Comments: 25

(25) miriam, June 20, 2009 9:49 PM

in response to ima, your right, if he had gotten lost, it would be a different story. but he didnt. he was alright. and so will most children be alright if we would give them the same amount of independence we had as kids.

(24) sandy, June 19, 2009 12:44 PM

I agree with R Salomon

Because we have bubble-wrapped our children, we have isolated them from the natural world to the point that most children, especially urban children, have no connection with the incredible creation of Life. How can we teach Tikkun Olam if they have no awareness of anything except computers and organized sports or lessons? I am a scientist, my love for the environment was fostered as a child through hours and hours of unsupervised play with siblings and friends in the woods, the wetlands, and the waterways. I also agree with Annette, that safety has to be a consideration (for example, teach the child to swim and then let him do it!) A group of children who understand their surroundings are safer than a lone child in unfamiliar territory. I am sure R. Salomon's grandson knew the way to shul very well.

(23) Anonymous, June 19, 2009 11:06 AM

I think it depends on the kid, himself. Every parent knows their kid best, if they think that the kid could do it, why not? Should they grow up their entire life being too dependant of their parents?

(22) Lenore Skenazy, June 17, 2009 8:57 PM

I agree with Tuvie!! (Of course, I would)

Hi Rabbi! Yes, it's me, Lenore, the mom who let her 9-year-old ride the subway himself. I'm glad Tuvie (Tuvy?) showed you what he's ready to do and gladder still that, despite some (very normal!) trepidation, you kvelled a little and thought about reality: The reality of what he can do and the reality of our pretty darn safe city -- safest of the top 25 largest cities in America. I'll bet you were walking 9 blocks by yourself when you were his age. Glad he's getting the same kind of freedom and responsibility. And meantime: Hi to you! It's nice to be mentioned on Aish. If you ever want me to come speak at your shul or community center, please let me know! I'm at freerangekids.com . Todah! L.

(21) Ima, June 17, 2009 8:11 PM

what if...

What if the rabbi's grandson had gotten lost, causing untold hours of worry for his family? Then we'd be saying that clearly the adults misjudged the situation and had acted irresponsibly. Obviously parents need to strike a healthy balance, but when it comes to safety issues I think you need to err on the side of caution. A thoght-provoking article, as usual!

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