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Lessons from Al & Tipper

Making sure you never take your spouse for granted.

Published: June 5, 2010


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Visitor Comments: 33

(33) Anonymous, June 13, 2010 4:04 AM

Keeping your marriage healthy AND happy

1: Maintain a sense of humor Even during serious arguments inject some humorous remark (Humorous, NOT sarcastic!!) Humor difuses stress and anger. 2: It's the little things that count EVERYDAY do the little things that you know are important to your spouse and, if they didn't notice, point out that you were thinking of them and wanted to please them. 3: Tell them EVERY DAY that you love them Even on those days that you don't feel like saying it. 4: Appreciate the little things they do for you.( Instead of thinking about all those things they didn't do that you wanted them to!)

(32) SusanE, June 12, 2010 1:09 AM

Was anyone really surprised?

The Gores was a strained relationship all during the marriage it seems.. He is a politician who was in high office. He is a seriously smart man, who has been distinguished with many awards. He won a Nobel prize. He writes. He works for ecology, safety and a Healthy earth. ..... She still uses the name 'Tipper". 'Nuff said. After 30 or so years most people in marriages change. The home was made and life was consumed with work, bills, raising kids, and friends. The children are gone. The work life is coming to an end. What was once the main reason for being married is over. Now they have free time to follow their passions and dreams. Sadly, they don't always include one another. Unless each partner feels the same closeness to stay together, then Its a great time to part when each is still young enough to have good health and energy. They aren't breaking up a home with young children. Finances are generally sufficient. Following your dreams and perhaps finding another partner with the same interests, can keep life interesting and vital.

(31) Betsy, June 10, 2010 6:09 PM

Do not be "stiff necked"

I have found if I let go of my need to be righteously right and stop being stiff necked on an issue of disagreement I am then able to say "I was wrong" or, at least, "I was probably wrong".. At that point I am able to calmly state myposition with an open avenue of conversation w/ my husband- who is an amazingly patient person.

(30) TMay, June 10, 2010 6:03 AM

bershert

I concluded that one cannot find one's bershert unless one knows oneself, which is quite logical, and the way to know oneself is to spend a lot of time, one on one, with oneself, and of course you should enjoy being with yourself.Some learning about yourself you learn in interactions with others.

(29) Shmuel Zev, June 9, 2010 5:04 PM

quality time - comment #23

It is so important that when spending time together, conversation should not center about the 'technicalities' of family life. Speaking about doctor appointments, educational issues, finances etc. will do nothing to bring you closer together. Try to share feelings or ideas. Share yourselves, not your do lists. Communicate your thoughts, your likes, your fears. Listen to each other and trouble yourselves to understand. You are not necessarily obligated to solve issues but to empathize with them. Build emotional bridges, not stategic alliances. Make the time, or you are just two people sharing the same appartment and environment. Your objective is to become one. Ultimately, you will find great satisfaction in being, what the rabbis called 'reyim ahuvim' (beloved friends).

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