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Afraid to Parent

What to tell parents of a two day old girl.

Published: February 20, 2011


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Visitor Comments: 91

(88) Annie, September 13, 2011 2:59 PM

Mazal Tov Mazal Tov

so YOU want a little piece of advise to share! ok... I agree there is too much fear of parenting out there which involves countless hours of whiny negotiations from parents to kids who haven't a clue what the world is about! so let's start by advising 'from the get-go, parents:' learn to say things ONCE to let the child know what's going on, only repeat a SECOND time IF necessary (three times is nagging/whining) and then SHUT UP. Learn to shut up. And this can be done lovingly, with smiles, with a firm and good attitude; if the child asks, then YOU ask them to repeat what you said... tell them you totally trust their intelligence to get it and do it. The quality of the results is based on their age, their mental capabilities and your training them without the distraction of too much yip-yap from parents' mouths! Just use the amount of words necessary. And shut up. Start their lives with the knowledge and beauty of shmiras halashon. You will all grow. Together. In Torah. Together together.

(87) Michal Selber, July 19, 2011 1:49 PM

Show them you believe in them

Tell your children, in words and by your actions, that you believe in them--in how capable they are and in their ability to make the right choices in life. Mazal Tov to you, your wife, and the entire mishpocoa.

(86) Anonymous, June 5, 2011 5:43 AM

work with your child as he/she is

Don't try to mold your child into someone they are not. See what their talents, abilities are and lead them toward actualizing themselves. Don't get caught up in trying to make them into 'cookie cutter's of what some in the religious velt would like everyone to be.

(85) Saul Pillai, May 31, 2011 3:49 AM

Listen

MAZAL TOV !!!! (a little late but, hey joys must be celebrated and wished) I’m not a parent and am not married… yet but I’ll like to say to parents out there; Listen to your children, hear (pay attention to) what they are saying/telling you and you’ll pick out hidden clues/cues that they actually want to share with you, but find it so difficult… SHALOM

Anonymous, June 2, 2011 1:27 AM

Listen to your children. And you will know their minds.

Not only listen...if I may be so bold....but See what they are interested in , what are they Looking at, what Facinates them, and Help them find their way toward their goal......what ever that may be.....what do you think?

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