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Marriage and Mental Illness

Are they mutually exclusive?


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Published: July 26, 2008


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Visitor Comments: 42

(37) anonymous, November 3, 2014 1:27 PM

don't agree

If you are an employer, you can give a person who has mental illness a chance in the workplace and maybe it will work out. If not you can try to find him/her a more suitable job or if there's no choice, fire him.

Marriage is a little more complicated. There can be so much heartache and suffering and if is hereditary can ruin generations. Unfortunately, not everybody can or should get married. Of course, we never know what will be even with a healthy person but that doesn't mean we should marry a sick one.

Anonymous, November 5, 2014 4:03 PM

Life Lesson

Speaking from experience as one who had been married to such a spouse, I would say that if the person is willing to deal with his/her illness and take what treatment or medicine is necessary, the marriage can be a huge success. But if not, it is usually a hell. This should be discussed by the couple before the wedding, and if necessary (and allowed) a line should be added to the Ketubah (or a separate agreement can be noterized) to the effect that if the ill person ever refuses treatment, a divorce will be granted.

(36) Lisa, November 2, 2014 9:36 AM

More sensitive & accepting.....

I think not!
In my world mental illness is still hidden in the closet!
I live in NY & I categorize myself as modern orthodox.

Rabbi, would you be thrilled if someone suggested a " really good boy" , so he's got a touch of bi-polar, for your daughter?

(35) Yochevet Uziel Weinberger, May 3, 2013 7:53 PM

One doesn't know everything ahead of time

when I married my husband I knew I was moody. After years of marriage, I was diagnosed as bipolar. I started on medication, which changed my life and made me into a more equal partner. My brother is also bipolar, has a lot of recovery, but his marriage went belly-up after 13 years. My close friend married someone who probably has a personality disorder making her physically and mentally abusive. They were both Jewish, but that was not enough. He recently remarried a Jewish woman who seems much more stable, and I have hope for them.

(34) rona, July 1, 2012 4:19 AM

is a person with mental illness obligated to keep halacha

hi, i believe my husband has some form of narcissism. he is refusing help and this may potentially be a cause to end our marriage. I have cyclothemia but through natural medicine, have kept it under control. are we, as people with mental illness, obligated to keep the halachot? we are often shunned in shul. this summer, at the camp I work at as an art specialist, i was given a hard time when the assistant i work with caught me taking my medicine. i was extremely annoyed at this because she was judgemental yet she herself is asian and a convert and had a bit of a time being accepted by the jewish community herself. so my question remains; if we are not so easily accepted by the community, are we obligated to keep all of the mitzvot?

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