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Online Dating & Jewish Marriage

Dating online is a great idea, but watch out.

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Published: March 11, 2012


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Visitor Comments: 34

(31) ilona, July 11, 2012 2:50 AM

Using internet sources as a way to meet a future spouse is as good as any other mean. It's just a way to meet a person. It's an opportunity to extend a network of the prospective candidates far beyond the boundaries of one's community. It is also effective in avoiding romours and gossips. However, the rest is up to the usual traditional circumstances. The sites are not at fault that people did not match. It's he and she who are supposed to look deep into each other as well as each other's families. A great degree rests on whether people know who they are looking for and why they are looking for those particular qualities or values or assetts.

(30) Anonymous, May 27, 2012 8:30 PM

Online...Unreal Fantasy

Rabbi Salomon, thank you for an insteresting issue. I think online dating is a joke. One who is interesting in finding a significant other, should think first what kind of person one one is looking for, ex. how this person treat his/her parents and elderly in general? Is this person respectful? What are his/her moral values? What is his/her family like? I do agree that just liking the same ice cream or the same movie does not make a person a good candidate for a lasting relationship. I personally thinks that surfing on line for Mr. or Ms. right, makes it difficult for one to assess the other person with accuracy. Thanks again for always making us think about important issues.

(29) Anonymous, March 21, 2012 5:15 PM

03/21/2012 I cannot speak from personal experience because at my time there was no Internet yet. But two of my children met their significant other on Jewish dating chat rooms. They are keneinehore married a long time and blissfully happy. Every story and situation is different. In Yiddish there is a proverb that says: "Der Herrgott sitz open and pured hinten." Loosely translated is " Hashem is above but does the pairing of couples on earth; he has his own "computer site" in Heaven. When is has to be that even a Jewish web site fits the bill. You only have to do your Hishtadlut, try and never give up and he will do his.

(28) MABSH"Y, March 19, 2012 5:29 PM

second marriages?

I notice that many of the commenters here who have had great success with online dating seem to have come from previous marriages. Perhaps what was missing the first time wasn't the method used, but a better perception of your own values, and those you want in a partner, and therefore any method of introduction would have worked?

(27) Anonymous, March 19, 2012 2:26 AM

dating scams

There are too many scam artists on dating websites. Even Jewish ones. Be careful of who you talk to.

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