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Shaking Hands with Women

Would you support a candidate who doesn’t shake hands with the opposite sex?

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Visitor Comments: 114

(97) Deborah, February 23, 2017 9:03 AM

This is his right.

I think there is a real issue with imposing modern beliefs and sensitivities upon Judaism, which is an ancient monotheistic religion. The laws of shomer negiah and shomer anayim are intended to maintain purity and respect between the genders. They are a response to the sexual licentiousness of past peoples that degraded both men and women. Therefore, in Orthodox Judaism it is obligatory for men to keep a respectful distance from unmarried women. This maintains order and discourages immoral thoughts. No one has to agree with this, but this candidate is not doing anything harmful to women. We don't have to like each other's differences, but we must respect those which are not harmful.

(96) ari, February 21, 2016 8:07 PM

Magic advice I once got from a secular lady

Its either causing embarresment to some poor lady, or compromising a central aspect of jewish law - a very tough call. But many times there's a third option,
The following is the advice that a very sensitive intellegent secular (probably traditinal is more accurate) lady gave me over 20 years ago. She's since passed away, but her advice is still here, and has saved me numerous times :
"When you're approaching the lady, or she approaches you, but both your hands behind your back, and as you great her politely nod. This body language will almost always signal to the other side not to put out their hand - and ths prevent all the embarresment. " - so that's it. and it really works!

(95) Gene, March 18, 2014 2:57 AM

Shake hands /w opposite sex ?

Do we choose to keep respect traditional ? I do not see myself as being equal . I want to recognize women as someone I do not have capacity to be .Someone I admire & am attracted to and do not want to comon-ize . So I want to recognize females for the unique creatures they are maybe with a bow.

Anonymous, March 31, 2014 3:34 AM

Shake hands/w. opposite sex

How lovely! Meeting you would allow me to feel like a queen. How sad that so many men don't treat women this way.

(94) DC, March 13, 2014 9:46 AM

It goes both ways.

I'm not sure if it was covered in the multitude of comments, but hopefully a man can explains that it's about respecting ones significant other and not disrespecting the opposite gender.
Hopefully he can expand on the subject by equating that his wife/sister/mother cannot shake a man's hand either and they are not considered misandrists for doing so.
Being a Baal Teshuvah women's wear designer, this is my biggest test.

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