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The #1 Reason for Marriage Problems

One rabbi’s opinion.


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Published: May 20, 2012


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Visitor Comments: 94

(80) Anonymous, October 30, 2014 11:42 PM

Women's changing roles

I feel that putting ones self first maybe a contributing factor, however, I feel that women are exhausted , both from working outside the home, and also doing most of the daily chores. In addition, I feel that sometimes women become very independent, and rather than staying in a bad marriage, their finances are such, that they are able to leave. This is not always a bad thing, as long as children are made to know that it is not their fault, and that both parties love them very much.

(79) Josh S, October 30, 2014 4:29 PM

Realizing Our Problems

I think one of the main problems with marriage is that people don't want to admit they have problems. They want to believe they're perfect in every way like Marry Poppins. Living in a fantasy world stops you from seeing what's right under your nose. Some things may be obvious and others more challenging. Sometimes we have to take risk in life to improve ourselves. We may not want to or like to, but what do we have to lose. It may be hard to admit the truth about people's problems to a spouse or anyone. If you trust a person, you could assume they'll understand, but not always. We can't be hush hush around people we know and love. No matter how hard it is, we must never give in. Life at times can be stressful. There are somethings that are difficult and others a cinch. It really depends on the person. We need to help ourselves, if we have things on our minds. Everyone has problems. Not neccessarily that they're considered dumb. I'm saying that everyone has to face certain challenges in life. We'll all different, each and every one of us. We may have simularities, but no one is 100% identical. Holding yourself back, just creates more stress on youself. Try not to go astray from reality. I hope that this message helps people. This is just my opinion. It's alright if you disagree. Happy to share my opinions.

(78) Lisa, October 28, 2014 10:21 AM

Happy Wife ==== Happy Life

This little phrase goes a long way!!

(77) Anonymous, August 17, 2012 4:00 AM

Divorce and children

I cannot agree enough with Sarah K. I am a divorced woman and the father of my children gave them no boarders of behaviour. I was brought up with discipline and boarders. He ridiculed my boarders in front of the kids. When we divorced the kids choose him and I am left a victim of "Parental Alienation Syndrome" unheard of in Israel. I am enstranged from my children. I had to move overseas I was so emotionally battered and needed a break. But now I have to put humpty dumpty family back together again if I want any form of Nachas.

(76) LSC, June 24, 2012 6:48 AM

The central fallacy here is that more divorces = more failed marriages. When marriages failed before, when people were suffering and unhappy, divorce was often not a viable solution. Even if legally possible (and often it was not) there was no realistic way to maintain a livelihood and place in society after a divorce - especially for women. I have never been convinced that the rise in divorces actually reflects a rise in unhappy marriages, any more than the rise in reported rapes, child abuse cases and other domestic problems really reflect that there is more of it going on - it is just not hidden and quietly suffered any more.

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